I am sorry for your loss and am grateful your husband has come around. As others have said, he was grieving and lashed out at the one he loves which is really quite common. We lost my mother the third day out on an 11 day cruise to Tahiti a few years back and my oldest son did not send the information to us until we were back in the USA on the way home. We really appreciated this as we could not have gotten back but maybe 24 hours earlier and lost four or five days of the most beautiful cruise we ever had. There was nothing we could have done and he did right by putting everything on hold until our return.