Originally Posted by katlady
Originally Posted by IBCRUZIN'
Originally Posted by thecruisequeen
I have to say also that part of dayid's first post I myself did not understand however the second post is all so true.
Back to the topic...it really is no ones business if an overweight person is wearing a bikini or sexy clothing. Because that same overweight person in a bikini can turn around and look at you and find something wrong with you. Nobody is perfect and we all have flaws!
If you don't like the clothing choice of overweight women just turn away it is that simple.
Have a great evening everyone!
From the tone of your posts, it is almost as though you feel a need to defend what needs no defense. It is everyone right to wear what they want. It is also everyone's right to have an option. If their opinion is on how you look in a particular outfit, as long as they don't cross the line and tell you how they think you look, what harm is done?
To take the position that "it is none of anyone's business" is a given but is also a bit prickly and sensitive. Unless, of course, it hits home.
I was once on a beach in Long Island, NY. There were two women on the beach. They were obviously mother/daughter. The mother looked to be well over 60. Both had on thong bikinis. While the daughter looked a bit naked but ok,
the mother looked ridiculous. It was obvious that she was very proud of her body (very wrinkled but trim) and felt she could still pull off the "nearly naked" look. However, considering this was a family beach, the sight of this senior citizen walking around the beach in full view of many many children in a bathing suit where her entire rear end was exposed was not APPROPRIATE.
It was obscene, pornography, repulsive and just pathetic. The bathing suit would have been fine for a private pool party or something less public but for a woman as old as this lady obviously was and to wear such a naked look at a crowd public beach was in such bad taste.
We have all seen from time to time people in "inappropriate" attire. "Inappropriate" may just be in our opinion but "inappropriate" none the less.
I was confused by some of your post. You seem to be saying it's okay to make fun of the way people dress as long as you do it behind their back.
Also it was a mother and daugther wearing thongs on a family beach but only the mother was dressed inappropriate because she was a senior citizen.
I would think if this is a family beach both the mother and daugther were dressed inappropriate regardless of age.
Thank you Libralass. It is doable in the USA also.
I don't make fun of people. Just about all of my observations silent. I never uttered a word about the mother/daughter on the beach. I never said a word to anyone about the teen with the too-small bikini. I noticed it and keep on going.
As far as the mother/daughter. . . No, IMPO they were both dressed inappropriately for a public beach. However, because of the mother's advanced age she looked ridiculous. The daughter just looked naked.
Now, I am not judging the worthiness of people. I am questioning their reasoning. When I was in my 20's I had a body very close to the picture included in an earlier post (but brown). However, as I got older and some parts of me got softer or wider, I adapted my clothing choices to styles that continued to highlight and accentuate the features that remained attractive while drawing the eyes away from the less flattering parts of my anatomy. For me, my legs, are still as pretty as 20 years ago. However my belly is not as flat nor are my breast as firm. Therefore, the no-bra look is out. The exposed belly is out. Rather, I will wear a loose top with fitted capris or a loose/swing dress that stops at my knees. My good features are still exposed while my weaker features are less noticable. Very cute, somewhat sexy, more than a little comfortable.
However, nowadays, it just looks like people don't want to take the time to figure out a fit. Perhaps a mesh cover up over a two piece will allow the beauty of the design of the swimwear to show through while somewhat disguising any unflattering features. A sarong wrapped crisscrossed behind the neck and then left to drape the body looks sexy and provocative on just about everyone without highlighting any less than glamorous body features.
It is doable. If a person chooses not to take the time to figure out what looks good and doesn't, that is their perogative.
My original question is . . . . when a person (usually a woman) puts on a pair of tight tight jeans that causes her gut to hang over the waist of the jeans, . . . . isn't that painful to have the hard denim material digging into her gut or side? Honestly, I want to know. Whenever I put on something that squeezes me, it hurts. Maybe it is just me.