I think you have a very narrow and cynical perspective.
Todd got it right. I'm a year older than he, and have been married four years longer than he. As I said in a previous reply, Terry and I have been to each other's reunions and had wonderful times--with the old girl friends, the old boy friends and everybody else. Just like Todd.
Our marriage is still utterly intact, no affairs were started or contemplated, and good times were had by all.
And we treasure old friends. I hope someday you'll be able to say that too.