We took my 8 year old nephew on a 14 day Transatlantic cruise in April 08. On this cruise, Carnival Freedom 2974 passagers, there were 25 childern. We had a table for 10 they were an older group and they were so nice to my nephew someone even give him a ship on a stick.
I think the poster had rose colored glasses as far as her child was concerned. I say this because of this line:
There was swimming pool issues if a child dared to raise their voice above a whisper or splash a passenger who had chosen to sit with their feet in the pool ( obvious poor choice if wanting to keep otherwise dry )
Does the poster think it's okay for her child to splash a passenger at the pool? We made certain my nephew didn't splash people. Splashing passengers at the pool doesn't sound like this actions of a polite and well behaved 7 yr old.