That is between you and your dear wife. A portion of the tips go to food service employees, will your children eat on board? Will your room be more or less tidy with four people occupying the cabin instead of two. Will you use more beds, towels?
My advise - only adjust the tips if you receive inferior or superior service, but they are your tips and you can do with them as you like.
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