No, Paul I disagree, it's not about control in this situation, my mother would love for us to go on a cruise, or land trip and bugs us constantly to go, She feels like such a burden, but the fact is my mother is very ill and she should have already passed away. I will not leave her and I will not be left with knowing I left on a trip when I knew she could have turned for the worse. That I could never live with. Things happen unexpected when one goes away at times, but I know how sick she is and I wont go now till it is over. Sam and I hope to get away a few days this spring, probably not more than a few hours driving time. We may consider a cruise or land trip during a week she doesnt get treatment IF she is stable and it would be last minute, and only if she is really stable and doing well.