Well, i'm sure some gay men or lesbians would choose not to participate in FOD gathering.. which is sad really. one of the things we have in common is our same sex sexuality.. sure not the only thing we have in common of course.
i'm amazed frankly how some gays can be standoff-ish toward other fellow gays. I know not every gay person gets along with other gays or lesbians.. but at least say hi or strike up a converstation to let them know you are also on the cruise.
I hope that won't be the case on our cruise in Oct. I would really enjoy meeting some fellow gays or lesbians on board the ship. We are a very low key 20 yr couple also, but if your gaydar is working, you'll have no problem identifying us