As soon as I heard, I understood completely. I could have been full of hate for Joe's killer, and his family, or I could forgive. It was the easy way out, by forgiving. The pain of loss was bad enough, but the heart and brain, take so much more to hate.
If he is anything like me, he also wants answers, and that can only come from family, and the shooter. I am still waiting for that. I hope it happens to him faster.