As a very successful TA from a large agency in the mid west. I have been on 60+ cruises and have never been invited to the Captains table. But I have many clients who have. Am I upset, absoulutely not I think that the paying public are the ones who deserve this honor.
I think interrupting the Captain while dining is rude. I don't care if you are a Dr., Lawyer, Police Officer. No one has the right to bother these people at meals unless it is a true imergency. This was not. The gentleman involved needs to grow up.