I would have really preferred having money to pay the cost of the wedding rather than the toasters and knives we got as presents - (we were 50, did people think we didn't have a toaster?), but that wasn't considered normal back when we got married.
Family are the worst - and I almost think that is a separate subject.
I do not understand people who act as of they can't stand their own families, but still expect all the money the parents leave behind. My sister never offered a lick of care to my mom, but now that she is broke she is more than happy to take any money she can give to her.