Good morning Gang.
CQ, if you see signs of dementia in both parents and want them with you, you might need to get them with you before things go too far. I say that from horrible experience. You don't want to have to go to court to get custody of a parent.
TM, I am glad that you're mom is getting good care in a home. Some people actually do better there. My dad was in a home for a while and could not understand why. It was so bad the social worker asked my mom to take him back. She refused. In fairness, she couldn't take care of him, but by that time she was around the bend herself. My brother was still in denial our dad was that ill, and I was two hours away trying to take care of things. My mom fought me at first about taking my dad.
Anyway, TM. I didn't mean to make you feel bad. Some people do better at home and some do better in a nursing home. It seems you picked a good facility for your mom and she has plenty of family visits.
Anyway, I hope everyone has a good day.