Shorts are fine in the dining room during breakfast and lunch, so at least try the dining room then.
Except formal nights, you don't need terribly dressy clothes for your kids. A pair of nice slacks for a young man, golf shirt and a couple of simple sun dresses would do fine for your kids.
I would strongly encourage you to try the dining room. It's a wonderful experience that you don't want to miss!
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