Showcat, you are putting a crewmans job and livelihood at risk. Yes they can and do get fired for that. I have a very close friend who used to work onboard a ship and sometimes still does. She still cannot come into my cabin unless the door is open and even then only for a short time, even if my wife is in the cabin! Understand when I say close, we are truely like brother and sister and have slept over each other's homes many times and are even close to the parents. It does not matter, you are just not suppose to be in a position that could even remotely raise an eyebrow.