My DH and I will be taking our first cruise in a few weeks, and I owe a large debt to this site. I've learned so much about cruising that I feel I've taken 3 before. I've been following the gripes, really get a kick out of some, but some common themes continue to pop up like tipping, drinking, smoking and obese people. Is there something to this I don't understand. Being from the south, I am considered a "healthy heifer". Do I need to stay home because I am? Is the whole cruise going to be whispers and stares? I've never let my weight get in the way of anything I've wanted to accomplish, but the cruisers are making me feel I need to rethink my vacation plans. Tell me it's not so.