jerijohn, I totally agree with Jen, go, have a great time. I am also a "Southern Belle". The only strange looks I have recieved were when I ordered Grits at breakfast.
. Our tablemates wanted to know what they were....You will meet people from all walks of life & nations. If you basically adhere to the dress codes no one will stare. I agree with Jen, we too like to sit in the bar & watch folks. As for formal night you will see all kinds. But I have yet to see anyone turned from the dining room, because of dress. By the way you did not mention your ship or port. Let me know if I can help you in any way. Beware one cruise is never enough, you will want to go again & again & again...........
Happy cruising. Let us hear your thoughts now.