at least go the the camp carnival info meeting. our son (10 at the time) was adamant that he did not want to go. we convinced him to go to the meeting just to check it out. when he found out what kinds of activities he would be doing, he was one of the 1st in line to sign up. he had a blast. any activities he was not interested in, he just checked out and hung out with us. you will have to check your 8yo out yourself if he chooses not to participate in a particular activity, but you will have a schedule and know when to go get him. the older kids can check themselves in & out.