I agree with you AR
it's important to be polite tablemate. I also believe that Norm has provided good information. The point is you are on vacation; relax and enjoy the meal.
I remember me and my husbandâ€™s third cruise there was a newlywed couple at dinner. They had order the soufflĂ© and so had I. I watched as the dessert was put in front of them. I could see their confusion and discomfort on whether they should use a spoon or fork. When my dessert came I looked at them and said "I can't tell if I should use a spoon or fork. I think I'll use a spoon.â€? They looked so relieved and also used spoons. If I should have used a fork; who cares I'm on vacation as long as I don't use my hands it's all good.