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kimjovi July 15th, 2006 10:10 AM

Can someone convince him?
 
Can someone give me help on how to convince my husband to go on a cruise? Any little tricks/lies etc. The hidden costs is his major concern. We travel to all inclusives frequently.I am seriouslt thinking about doing this on my own thanks kindly!

valtime July 15th, 2006 10:25 AM

convincing him
 
If you have to talk him into it - don't go. You won't have a good time 'cause he will pout.

venice July 15th, 2006 12:59 PM

tell him you will go with or without him..like most men, he'll cave in at the last minute and then love it so much,he'll book another cruise before you get off the ship and then tell everyone that it was his idea in the first place (VBG)

On a more serious note, if hidden cost are his concern, there is a wealth of help on this board..rule of thumb that seems to work for me for many years, plan on spending as much in hidden cost (which includes your flying) should not be greater than what you paid for your cabin..Also pre-pay your tips, establish a shipboard credit for XXXX amount of dollars then he can monitor the extra's on a day to day basis..alot of the hidden cost is "temptation" buying but good self discipline can be exercised but don't cut yourself short (budget a massage to treat yourself, budget a supper club experience), budget some new cruise clothes that can do double duty when you come home etc.

good luck !!

Mike M July 15th, 2006 01:40 PM

Tell him to add $100/day to cover the "hidden" expenses of tips and drinks and he will be able to have a good time.

He will have the chance to relax or have fun that he has at an all inclusive but he will see so much more than he ever could at an all inclusive. Multiple ports to see, snorkeling in different areas and more activities on board or relaxing in the sun. You can keep on shore expenses down by doing things on your own or taking in the beaches.

I've done both and in the end the price is almost equal unless you are a big drinker. My wife and are moderate drinkers (2 or 3 mixed drinks a day and wine with dinner). I don't drink too much any more so my onboard bar bill is less. Note: We usually go with a balcony cabin or higher and in a all inclusive we have done an ocean-view with balcony.

The negative is that you do have to watch or budget the "impulse" purchases such as: Spa, shops, photography, etc. These are where you will add to your onboard account. However these are also extras in most all inclusives.

In the end, being on the ocean is more enjoyable than standing on the shore looking at it.

Take care,
Mike

LisaK July 17th, 2006 10:58 AM

Actually, there are no true "hidden costs" when it comes to your cruise. It is spelled out for you what your Cruise Fare covers.
Mike spelled it out pretty clearly.
Request some brochures

gbos July 17th, 2006 12:18 PM

I need a change a scene and is a cruse the best Idea
 
I am a 55 year old man who after 30 years just ended a marriage. I need to get away and I don't want to be home during the holidays. Would a cruse over Xmas or New Years be best. I will be traveling by my self for the first time in 30 years. :?:

venice July 17th, 2006 12:42 PM

been there..the closer to the actual holiday is actually worse because there are lots of families onboard..actually if you can go a week or two before the holidays you will have a greater chance of finding more singles and fewer families

if you have a non attach friend of the opposite sex to go with you it might help...you would be surprise on how many folks are in your same situation

good luck, it gets better

colorcrazie July 17th, 2006 12:55 PM

gbos,
I used to cruise a lot by myself. Once on board, I would go to the maire d' and ask to be seated at a table with other people traveling solo. Made some good friends that way.
I don't know if they still do this, or if it would be right for you, but I also used to book single share, where the cruise line matches you up with cabin mates of the same sex. Age ranges go from very young adults to retirees. And it gives you someone to talk to.
Whatever you decide, have fun!
Marty
P.S> To original question. When DH and I got serious about each other, I said I would not give up my cruises. Talked him into a 3 day cruise. A lot easier than convoncing him to try a week. He fell in love with it. No surprise there. Whatever "bribe" works in your marriage, go for it. Mine is too, um, personal, to post here! :wink:

gbos July 17th, 2006 01:19 PM

I actually just need to get away by myself. The last 18 months have been hell. I am not sure how much money I will need? I am planing of getting a room by myself. Should I bring my Tux, or just bring shorts? Will I need a book? How do you talk to a women without her feeling your trying to pick her up? How do you tell if she wants you to pick her up? At my age the word "no" doesn't bother me, it's the word "yes" that scares the hell out of me? I don't remember what to do after she says yes. Hell it's been 30 years.

venice July 17th, 2006 01:59 PM

make friends with the various bartenders while onboard..you'll be surprise what they know about your fellow single passengers

realx, you'll be fine..you are going on the cruise to be open to new and different experiences...what ever you don't tell talk about your "ex"..that's a guranteed turn off to women

cheezz July 17th, 2006 04:20 PM

crusing alone
 
Crusing is a great way to travel solo! Go to this chat board's "Meet on Board" section and post your cruise data - it's fun to meet up with others from the board as a way to start your cruise not "totally" solo. Good way to begin meeting people you're traveling with.

Just don't go expecting to pick someone up (speaking from the female point of view) - it will just look pushy and desperate. Go to have a good, relaxing time. Choose open seating so you can sit at a table with others, bring some good books to lounge around the pool with, go to all the group activities on board.... just have a good time and RELAX!


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Originally Posted by gbos
I actually just need to get away by myself. The last 18 months have been hell. I am not sure how much money I will need? I am planing of getting a room by myself. Should I bring my Tux, or just bring shorts? Will I need a book? How do you talk to a women without her feeling your trying to pick her up? How do you tell if she wants you to pick her up? At my age the word "no" doesn't bother me, it's the word "yes" that scares the hell out of me? I don't remember what to do after she says yes. Hell it's been 30 years.


colorcrazie July 20th, 2006 01:34 PM

Many cruise lines now have two single mixers, one for youngun's and one for mature adults. Even if you just sit and watch, at least go to the mixers. Now, I have a hard time thinking of myself of mature...old is okay, but mature?!?--horrifying.

But, cruises are an easy way to inch back into meeting people. You can chat with someone a bit, then agree to meet the next day for a light activity and not get into the old meat market mentally. Forget picking someone up, just chat with people. Almost everyone is friendly on board. After all, you're all on vacation and literally in the same boat! The first cruise after I got divorced was great for me. I found out that I could socialize without feeling pressured. Also, I recommend talking to everyone, not just singles. It takes away the pressure of the single "scene" mindset.
Marty

JeanS July 21st, 2006 06:32 AM

Kim,

I've been on all-inclusive resort vacations as well as cruising, and each one has a lot to offer! I'm sure you spend money in others ways while at the all-inclusive. You could tell him how cool it is to be able to unpack only once and visit various ports of call. How about just suggesting a 3-4 day cruise to see if he likes it? Life is too short not to cruise!

Good luck! Let us know what happens....

rescuedad July 21st, 2006 04:27 PM

I have researched the all-inclusives and 7 cruises. I just got back from a 5 day cruise and with the cost of the cruise I spent at least $1000-$1500 less than an all-inclusive would have cost me. Most of the "hidden cost" is drinks. but a good reference is what mike said $100 day. and if your a beer drinker like me you would spend $500 an 50 beers on your cruise. just a reference!

Rodney Smith December 8th, 2006 03:03 PM

Tell him you will pay for any hidden expenses.

beenie weenie December 10th, 2006 10:13 PM

Kim, here's what ya need to do:
Prepay all your tips. If you drink wine prebuy enough for the cruise. If you like mixed drinks, Carnival will sell you drink coupons. Prebuy all your shore excursions. If you drink soda, buy a soda card. Get a spa menu and if there is a service you want to take advantage of it, then pay in for on board credit to cover it. Voila! no hidden fees. Done!

My advce for GBOS is to go with the flow. Don't over analyze, and let yourself just have some fun and everything else will work out. I would bring $100 day as a basic rule, but it also depends if you drink alot, do the spa stuff, like to donate to the casino etc... You'll be charged $10 daily for tips usually.
If you're lucky enough to have someone special say "yes" then just remember, it really is like riding a bike, you won't forget what to do. lol!

hazelson December 13th, 2006 02:35 PM

Tell it like it is - if you go on your own the cost will be about the same as if he goes along with you. And you never know - it could cost him the love of his life if you go alone :o)


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