I have a 14 year old son (almost 15) who wants to stay out until 1:00 am on the ship. We're thinking more like midnight. Is 1:00 am reasonable or unreasonable. What curfews did you have for your children?
I think it is up to each parent. I am 22 and can honestly say I would not let my kids (if I had any) stay out that late. I wouldn't let my niece stay out that late either and she’s 15. It's not just based on the child’s maturity level. You have to think about all the drunken irresponsible people out there. Just because a person will be caught if they do something wrong doesn't mean they won't do it. I saw several young girls on our last cruise being hit on and approached by much older men. Though there is less of a risk for boys there is still a risk.
So no I do not think that a midnight curfew is too early or unreasonable.
Thanks, Cassie. That's exactly what I was thinking. We've never been on a cruise before so I wanted to make sure I wasn't just being overprotective. It'll be interesting to see what others say too.
BassFrets2008 - There is not for a 15 year old to do at 1:00 a.m., with the exception of the Arcade. The other problem is. At that time of the morning, the only real activity is gambling and drinking! And coming back from the late entertainment shows I have run into some pretty nasty drunks!
On 3 of our cruises, our son (from the age of 15 to 17) stayed out in the teen disco. I believe it closed at 2 a.m. There were many teens with him and the teen director. He took a walkie talkie with him so we always had contact and he is a very responsible and respectable young man. He is now in the US Marines, stationed in Iraq and wishing he could join us in 4 weeks. It does depend on how mature the teen is.
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Other than the late night disco, there is really nothing for teens to do. I think 11 pm is a great time. My 13 yo son and I went out *together* after 11 pm because we are both night owls.
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Now this is only my opinion...but...I just returned from my cruise and the only thing I can really say about this subject is...if you decide to let your child run loose on the ship...I hope he has manners and respects others on the ship. I DID NOT appreciate the kids running up and down the hallways all hours of the night yelling and pounding and waking people up. I found the kids on this ship needed a good "butt kicking" Not only were they rude but they were very disrepectful to the employees...demanding drinks right then and there...never said Thank You or Please...left their dirty dishes where ever they felt...on stairs on floors...I would have killed my kids if they acted like this. Also...there were girls aged 14-15 trying to see how many boys they could get thru the week...some were even found on the top deck in the middle of the night...buck naked doin it with everyone...when these girls end up pregnant or with a STD...it's noone's fault but theirs and their parents. I agree with the others...there's nothing for them to do that late.
This is what I had to say when I weighed in on the Teen Board:
My family and I will be cruising in 3 weeks.
My son is 15 and a pretty good kid. I honestly don't know what time I'll give him as a curfew as we kind of expect he'll be with us most/all of the time. There are a couple of nights that my husband and I will be going to the casino for a bit of time (not spending a lot so we won't likely be late!) and he'll be on babysitting duty for his sisters. I imagine that as a reward we'll let him have a couple of evenings "out" if he asks - I won't go handing him carte blanche offering a late curfew for no reason at all. That said I can guarantee you that there will be nothing past 12:30 permitted - and even that will be a HUGE stretch.
Parent's failure to regulate how their children behave is a large reason behind all the vandalism in cities and towns - and as I've read a wee bit on the teen board I can see that it does carry over onto the ships too. Such examples include playing with loud speeker systems, putting deck chairs in pools, running down hallways knocking on doors at all hours, drinking and being loud, etc...
I wonder, "Where are your parents? Do they know you're doing this? Would they allow you to be out, at home, till all hours? Why don't the rules from home apply on holidays - is it someone else's responsibility because you abdicate all parental control during holidays?" (this wasn't part of my post, but I certainly do think it every time I see kids out of control)
So I have to ask them: Why do you need to be up all night? What is it you feel you have to do between 12 and 4 AM? Hooking up and hanging out? Drinking yourself stupid? Sitting eating pizza and ice cream? (that would be where you'd find my son if he does stay out late) Do you really believe that just because you're in a "closed" space that you can't get into trouble or find yourself in any harm? What do you need to be up till 4 AM, without adult supervision for?
Our children had an 11:00 p.m curfew (10, 12 & 15). There really wasn't much to do after 11:00 for the kids. We did allow them to stay up later for the midnight buffet, but they were with us.
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I am a 16yr old girl and i was 15 when I was on my last cruise. My curfew was 2:30. Nothing bad happeend to me and I didnt do anything bad. My friends that I met on the ship hung out in the Disco, on the deck outside and played pingpong, and went to eat at buffets ect... we didnt get into any trouble and I dont remember seeing any teens getting into trouble.. I guess it just depends on the bunch of kids that are there and how much you actually trust your kids
I look at it as, where are you children going to go? They're on a boat in the middle of the ocean. What you might want to do is let him scout everything out the first night and let him decide by that night what time he wants to go in. On my last cruise, I walked into the teen club at like 2:00am one night at it full, so I think 1:00a.m. is reasonable. But the good thing about having an early one is that you don't have to worry about him having nothing to do and getting into mischief (which mostly all teenage boys manage to do) lol.
Took two 17 year olds (Son and son's friend) last year on the Conquest and we had cabins next to one another. We layed down the rules straight out. No girls in Cabin, No unruley behavior, No trouble, etc.. With the first infraction and with no second chance, they got me as their cabin mate if they screwed up. The disco styed open til 1:00 AM. They also spent time inthe arcade. They were required to check in every so often. The bartenders all knew them by name (somehow) because we bought them a soda card and that is where they had to get their drinks. The tenders knew that they were under age as you have to provide sign & sail for drinks. We really had no problem, but then I guess it also depends on the maturity of the teen.
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I think you have to make the decision cruise by cruise. I have been on cruises where a group of 15 year olds tried to hit on my gf (she was 18 and i was 21). She told them to back off and they didnt listen, so I asked them to leave her alone. They tried to start a fight with me......they started screaming and yelling how they were going to kick my @$$. Needless to say they backed down because I was on the cruise with 14 friends all of which were listening to the conversation.
On the other hand I have been on cruises where the 14-15 year olds were the life of the party (in an innocent and good way). All of them respectable and out to have a good time all while being safe.
Id say figure out what kind of people are on your ship and get a feeling from there. If it looks like they are making alot of good friends you can trust then give them a little breathing room. If the rest of the passengers on the boat are "trouble" then Id put your kids on lock down.
Id also advise that if you see another child acting up especially the girls (from my experience they tend to act a little............"dirty" on cruises) then tell someone. All you have to do is tell the staff that there is a 15 year old with some 25 year old and they will do something about it. I met my gf on a cruise and I look much older then i am, most think i am 27-28 and she looks 16-18 (she is 18, im 22 now) and the carnival staff did at times question the 2 of us hanging out. Some of the time we had to find her mom so the crew would leave us alone. But we didnt mind and her mother still to this day loves me. Worst that happens you tell the crew and they do nothing.....
Our 13 and 15 yr olds had a 1 AM curfew there was only one night they stayed out till then and it was the last night , saying goodbye to all thier new friends. They had met some really good kids onboard about 10 in all. These kids were well behaved and were not out causing trouble as some people think all kids at this age do. Most nights they were in by 12. I think us giving them that late of a curfew showed how much we trusted our kids they knew if they werent in or got it trouble then 11 would come much earlier. Please stop thinking just because there is a group of teens together they are up to no good.
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Check out the kids your kids are hanging around if they seem to be ok then let them enjoy thier cruise. Get to know where they spend most of thier time, our kids were mostly in the Enchanted Forest on the Legend. Dad and I would go for "walks" some evenings. We would plan on walking right past them so thier new friends wouldnt know thier parents were checking up on them. but they would always come and give us a hug and kiss :o)
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I'm a 15 year old teen girl and just got back from my cruise.. I had a 1:30 curfew on days we were going to port and 2 on days we would be at sea.. I know some of you must think that's an unreasonable hour and there's nothing to do.. but I made a few close friends and all we would do after the disco (15-17) closed was going up to the buffets.. we never caused trouble around the ship, yeah there was a few older teens around 18 that did cause some trouble, but not everyone's perfect.. If yout rust your son, which with some of you it doesnt sound like you do because you judge them on stories from other cruisers, then go ahead and give them an early curfew.. but that doesnt allow them to make strong friendships with the people from the cruise
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