You may discover that even when you're armed with the facts of statistical averages backing you, your friend may remain reluctant to cruise. Respecting that individuals concerns is what friends do, and yet, you want to share your passion for cruising.
Tough spot, how to encourage someone to "do" something they are truly frightened about, while remaining sensitive to their feelings.
Is your friend hesitant about being confined, trapped or is the whole Titanic thing going on here? With receint shark attacks along the Flordia panhandle, the concept of floating in the Caribbean while clinging to a deck chair is not comforting - and saying something light and whitty like, "how long can you tread water?" would fall flat too.
An old saying: A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion, still.
Perhaps by just backing off a bit and affirming your friendship even if your friend never cruises may enforce the genuineness of your friendship and gradually she'll open up to this crazy "cruise thing" we all enjoy so much ...
There are sufficient numbers of lifeboats on the cruise ships to accommodate everyone and the lifeboats are HUGE, motorized and covered. If you sail in the Caribbean, you are never very far from land and sail past many islands, large and small, on your journey. I have a sister that refuses to cruise, sinking being one of the problems, her loss.
Wow ! Your in a tough spot. Don't push her ! Somehow, this has got to be her decision to cruise. You could tell her all about the maritime laws and theres always enough life boats onboard for everyone.Its more dangerous driving to work, or more dangerous to fly, and ect. And I don't think it would matter one bit.
I would try to introduce her to a 3 or 4 day cruise first. Maybe if you and one of her other closest friends could go with her. Its going to have to be someone that she trusts without any hesitations. Just ask her to try it once, and if she don't like it, you want ask her again.
There's no doubt that she would love the expierance, and the cruise environment. If she did, she would be hooked for life !
Ask her to tell you when the last cruise ship sank . Can she remember any ? The days of the Titantic are over. Just a passing thought !
Until your friend makes up her mind that it's something she wants to try, you might be fighting a losing battle. My friend was terrified to cruise. Her fear was of being out on the ocean with no land in sight. She was convinced that she was going to have a terrible time and guess what....she did! Couldn't wait to get home. She had nothing good at all to say about the cruise. I think if her family had not forced her to go and she had went under different circumstances she might have enjoyed it more. She vows to never set foot on a cruise ship again and I believe her.
My mother in law has the same fear. I had planned on "forcing" her to go with us next year by paying for her and giving her the cruise as a gift. I wont try that now after my friends experience. I will just have to let her decide on her own when she wants to go and if that day never comes, so be it.
Paradise - January 2009
Paradise - April 2008
Carnival Pride - Nov 2007
Paradise - Sept 2005
Carnival Pride - Nov 2004
Ecstasy - Jan 2004
Carnival Pride - Nov 2003
Elation - Nov 2002
Also how about a one night cruise to nowhere - all the cruise lines have them though not often. Also how about a day or dinner cruise close by - don't know where you are from but we have them her on the Golf Coast - Houston/Galveston out of Clear Lake you can take a 150' yacht out for 2 hours on a day cruise for $20 a person. Work on her slowly if she is really scared. AND DON'T take an old gambling boat out - they are the worst!! Old and decrepit - I went on a gambling boat out of Galvseton when they were here before my first cruise and almost backed out of going!!! The ship must have been 100 years old!!! Debbie
I was in the Navy back in the 60's & was satationed on destroyers (the real NavY)... Our ships were small & went through typhoons, got sick for a week & never got sick after that.... Seas were so rough that the props lifted out of the sea on the swells.... Not trying to scare you but we never sank or took on water.... We did the Conquest back in Nov. 2003 & hit some HIGH seas, we had a front cabin & you could hear & feel every crashing wave, felt like we were hitting big logs or trees..... Now being in the Navy I knew we were OK & told my spouse several times that we were not sinking!!!!!! So here is a helpful hint, get a middle cabin in the lower deck, much better ride.....
__________________ Bob & Kathy
Littleton, Colorado (near Denver)
Conquest .... Nov /03 (New Orleans)
Conquest .... Dec /05 (Galveston)
Celebration.. Sept /06 (Jacksonville)
Fantasy....... Dec/07 (New Orleans)
Splendor...... Nov. 29th, 2009
Hey, I have a friend that doesn't like being confined!! She won't go on the cruise at all! She gets nervous on islands as well. But, hey, loves to fly????? I thought it was interesting that she didn't jump at the chance to go on the last three cruises with us. Then, I over heard her husband say she was afraid of having an anxiety attack!! Oh, well. This is a friend that will take off work, and follow me everywhere!!! Not on a ship or Island.