I hope this thread doesn't become a political hot potato but...
David and I, after a twenty year relationship together, were legally married in the great state of Oregon yesterday. It was a very unexpected window of opportunity and we were advised by our attorney to act quickly before any possible court injunctions, which we did.
We probably had the cheapest wedding in the history of the U.S.A. Here is our wedding budget expenses:
Catering..................... $ 2.00 (one bag of cashews from a kiosk)
Music........................... $5.00 (donation to the volunteer street band)
Flowers....................... free gift from unknown well wishers
tuxes and gowns...... none
invitations.................... 2 cell phone calls which gave our two witnesses each
a grand total of about twenty minutes notice.
digital photography.... free
Grand Total ................ About $68.00 How about that for a cheap wedding
With any luck by the time I retire in 10 years or so, we will have legal standing so that we will have equal civil rights to other citizens who are also married. If so, we each will be protected by pensions, social security, health insurance, as well as have legal status for visitations in the unfortunate case that one spouse or the other might be hospitalized in an intensive care situation.
Anyway the wedding bells are ringing at our house and I'm goin to have our marriage certificate framed tomorrow. Our planned trip to Oaxaca, Mexico next month will be our first REAL honeymoon.
Chuck, (and David!) after 20 years together, what wonderful news! Congratulations to you both, and many more happy cruising years to come!
BTW, you certainly can't beat the price - you guys should do a Master Card commercial!
Mazel tov to both of you. After 20 years together, you certainly knew what you wanted. I wish you continued happiness together. Does the new certificate make you feel more married? I told my daughter (who was living with her fiancee at the time), there's nothing like that piece of paper. Once she had it, she agreed. I'm glad you have the benefits of marriage, Chuck and David.
Thank you to all for your very kind thoughts. I was a bit afraid to make this announcement and once again the friends I've made at cruisemates have come through sailing on the high seas.
One little funny is in order....
While filling out the marriage application form, we were required to list one of us as "the groom" and one "the bride." Well needless to say a coin toss on the courthouse steps was in order and now I'm the bride. Immediately David said that he gets to be the boss. But all we brides know the real truth about that issue now don't we? I replied saying in that case, I get to nag a lot. David's response not to be outdone was "Ya can't nag very much from the bottom of the well. Hmmmmm?????
Is this the kind of respect I get after a cheap shot gun weddin' ???
Congrats Chuck and Dave! You should be very excited and I'm happy you felt you could post here and share the news with us. We've been planning my daughter's wedding for the last 18 months...and I bet I've spent $68 just in pain reliever! Today promises to be very expensive wedding-wise....we are seeing the florist and also ordering the invitations today! Congrats again!
Mary Lou Scanlon
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Congrats Chuck & David!!!!!! Just think of all the money ya can spend on your cruise now with what ya saved on the marriage!!!!! Chuck......being the bride you get to have David serve ya breakfast in bed.........& be pampered ALL day!!!!!!
The "bride and groom" reminds me of my friends wedding last year. He's a writer and producer and we've been friends for 30+ years - seen him through 3 marriages and countless girlfriends.
He chose me to be the "best man" (I'm female) so all the pictures show the bridal party with a bride, groom, matron of honor and best "man" - 3 woman and one man. People who don't know him well can't figure it out.
Glad the coin toss worked. Wonder what Martha would have said, not that it matters today.
Thanks again to everyone for the kind and generous thoughts.
Todd and Jeff, David would be hard pressed to lift me over the threshhold but the thought of it does conjur up images in my mind. It is hard for a 6'4" bride to look real pretty being carried over the threshhold, even after a few weeks of the South Beach Diet.
Last night we had a little dinner celebration with some of our closest friends at Gino's Restaurant in Portland. When we got to the table, the owner, Mark, had a bottle of incredible chilled champagne sitting on the table as we were seated. Anyway we had an outstanding Steak dinner with beef from the Painted Hills Ranch and way too much champagne and lots of red wine. We're a little bit O-D ed this morning I'm afraid.
We will be having a real reception in August when the weather here in PDX will most likely be excellent. Also our friends from Florida, Terry and Phoebe will be here. Terry's son, Court, was the pastor who married us. He'll be invited as well and we will probably repeat our vows at that time for the many friends and relatives that were unable to be invited for the wedding due to the last minute nature of things.
Any cruisemates residing in or heading to the Northwest in August will be invited as soon as we have the exact date. All you Alaska cruisers stay tuned for more information.
This was one wedding where the cart came far before the horse. Now it's time to plan.
You know, I am not a mean person...I am very nice but I think that people of the same sex should not be married legally. It is morally wrong. I am glad that you are happy, and by no means am I trying to down you, I don't know you, therefor I cannot judge you...I am just stating my opinion, whether it be wrong or not. Best of luck with the marriage license, but good luck keeping it that way...it's just a piece of paper. I don't mean to be a downer on your marriage, it just bothers me to watch another man kissing another man...that is why there was an Adam and an Eve, not an Adam and an Adam.
The license may be just "a piece of paper" but it means a lot to straight -- and gay -- couples.
Chuck and David have been together *20* years -- both my *divorced* sisters never matched that, --- with two kids apiece (14 and 15 years marriages respectively).
If it is against your grain to see two men kissing, never go to Europe or the Middle East.
And if that is *your* phobia, why would you deny two people the right to commit themselves to one another. Chuck was not inviting you into his bedroom, and I am sure you would not on your wedding weekend.
Shame on you!
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