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Old May 8th, 2004, 05:44 PM
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Mark is back from Texas - but now wondering if I should send him back. We "tried" to do some gardening together today so finally he did the tomatoes in the back & I did the flowers in the front. Now w/o any blood shed - I am on the computer & he went fishing! Arrgh!
In 23 yrs of marriage & 25 yrs together we have learned that you don't do the following together:

Hang wallpaper
husband should NOT try to teach wife how to drive a stick shift
obviously gardening now

Anything else anyone has to add to the list?

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Do not go clothes shopping with wife and daughter
Do not let partner accompany you to casino - she will be bored

That's it for now but I'm sure there will be others to follow, and we're not even married yet<G>

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Hang curtain rods or artwork....

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Old May 8th, 2004, 07:22 PM
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Oh yeah Trip! That is a good one! Ya Richard - there will be loooooooooooottts more!

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Old May 8th, 2004, 08:03 PM
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DITTO on the clothes shopping.
Buy a new vehicle....I think 4x4 (so I can get out, on snowy days, to shop for clothes without him!) AND he thinks bright, shiny, new, red sports car!
Grocery shopping...he buys tooooooo many snacks.
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Old May 8th, 2004, 08:51 PM
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My then fiance taught me to drive a stick shift on his brand new TR 6 with a British racing clutch; next month we'll be married 34 years.

We used to hang wallpaper together, but now we can afford to have it done, and that hired paper hanger doesn't swear at me, not even once.

He's great at hanging art work, says "Where do you want this?", I point, and up it goes.

When we get lost on a driving trip, we don't do very well.

We love to be together, and like many of the same activities, but some things we've divided up: I cook, and he cleans up the kitchen; I buy all the clothes, and he keeps the cars gassed up and maintained; I plan the trips, and he drives the car; I coordinate the decortating, but he gets veto power.
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Old May 8th, 2004, 09:02 PM
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I hung wallpaper up a stairway on scaffolding, with my 1st husband. It very nearly ended the marriage 6 years before it finally ended! He also tried to teach me to play tennis once. Never again. Ditto for the stick shift. Maybe it was just the marriage that was doomed! !!
On the other hand, James and I love to do everything together, and also give each other space when we need it.

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Old May 8th, 2004, 09:38 PM
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If you really want to test your marriage and do MEAN really test it..go on a float trip together...Our church group went on a float trip(about 60 couples)..at least 50 had to have marriage counsling at the end of the trip..

re:..Float trip...in a canoe down our unspoiled Buffalo River...very little paddling and a lot of rapids.



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I have hung wallpaper since I was a kid....hubby stands there, and hands me what I need

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Cook. Two cooks in the kitchen is one too many.

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Go into business with each other........................it's hard enough to have a business partner, but worse when you sleep in the same bed.

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Old May 9th, 2004, 05:54 AM
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I definitely vote for the wallpaper hanging....NEVER do that with your spouse!

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bigjohn, what's a float trip?

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Trying to *teach* each other something is bad news.

My dh was a tennis coach in college and tried to teach me to play tennis. Don't know why he was so mad....I just had ONE comment and it involved different approaches he could take to get the tennis racket into his different orafices.....

Who knew??

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!! That was good Dorothy!

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I agree with Big John on the float trip. My DH and I have gone on a float trip together for the last 10 years (Or more) and every we swear we will never canoe together again. (He leans too much)

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totally agree on the grocery shopping. I have my list and i stick to it, when DH comes along he puts way too much (especially snacks) in the cart.
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ditto the stick shift!!

Grocery shopping we go to Walmart and he heads in one direction and I head toward the food section with my list. He shows up toward the end. If he shows up early I send him after what I missed - just so he won't fill the cart with "snacks". Usually I don't see them till we are at the check out and he just gives me those puppy dog eyes!!!

Diet together! All I keep saying is "no" I don't want to "split" that. "No" we can't eat that. "no" I don't want to buy that...

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Our marriage survived paper hanging, float trips, grocery shopping,all of the above without any problems. Things do get a little dicey when we try to go on vacation and drive together, particuarly if we get lost.
I'm not sure it will survive his retirement. Thank the good lord I am still working and will be for several more years. I may never quit.
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Lesley,
Does he lean to the right or the left?

Wait! You don't have to answer that...

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Andee,

Ah yes, those fabulous driving trips...forgot about those. Our first trip through Portland in evening rush hour in the pouring rain was not fun. Someone almost took Amtrak back to Vancouver (BC) <G> We can laugh now but it wasn't very funny then.

We missed an exit and crawled through the business district downtown. Could have gotten a good rate at the Hilton, but NNOOOOO someone wouldn't pay $18 for parking overnight-UGH! After we calmed down we got a motel (stinky room-had to go to the mall and buy a scented candle ) by the Convention center for the same price. But hey, free parking :-)

But it's been all uphill since then (Trying to get to the zoo in Seattle preceded that one).

Have you had a conversation like this?

Driver: How close are we to "such and such street"
Map-reader: I don't know, where are we now?
Driver: We are on "this" street at "that" street"
Map-reader : Where's that on the map?
Driver: It should be the one in red going north-south
Map-reader: Don't yell at me, don't you know where you're going?
Driver: What, like I've been here before?

The rest of the conversation has been deleted as it's not worth repeating and this is a family site<VBG>

We'll stick to cruising, thank-you very much.

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My hubby told me to add one - we can NOT work on the computer at home together! We are both trying to click different areas or telling each other what to click on - it is not pretty!!! Debbie
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