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Old November 19th, 2004, 08:13 AM
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My father-in-law is failing rapidly. The cancer is agressive and fast moving. His doctor has given him 2-3 weeks. We are hoping that he survives thru Thanksgiving. All the family is scrambing to find flights in, its very difficult to find flights because of the upcoming Holiday. We are hoping that they all make it.
We are hoping to bring him home tomorrow if hospice can make the room ready. We were at Mom's house last night tearing the spare bedroom apart to make room for the hospital bed and whatever he needs. We ended up sitting on the floor chatting and going thru some pictures and books. It was good.
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Old November 19th, 2004, 08:17 AM
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Sorry to hear of this; we will pray for him & the entire family.

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Old November 19th, 2004, 08:30 AM
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Dealing with the possible loss of a loved one is such a difficult thing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family that you will find the strength to make his last days peaceful and loving.

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Old November 19th, 2004, 08:57 AM
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Lisa:
I am so sorry for you and your family and your father in law. One of the few positive things that happen in a time like is that families come together. Use this time to comfort for your father in law, positive reflection for your family and healing of any issues there may be.

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Lisa...
I do hope all the family are able to get in, and comfort one and other. Though I'm sure it will be difficult to let go... I hope your father in law's time left is in comfort, surrounded by love, and that his passing is a painless and peaceful one.

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Old November 19th, 2004, 09:26 AM
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Lisa, I hope all the family can all make it there to visit with him. I hope he is painfree and comfortable for his last weeks. Take care.

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Old November 19th, 2004, 09:29 AM
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Lisa: You were wise to involve Hospice - they are wonderful people. They will help not only your father-in-law, but all of you who have questions, concerns and worries.

Please know that prayers and good thoughts are are there way to all of you in this difficult time.
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Old November 19th, 2004, 09:39 AM
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I am so sorry to hear of his ailment and condition, I just Monday lost my Mother-in-Law, we especially my wife are still moarning the loss, she was a great woman, we paid for our cruise about 6 months ago and my work would not allow me time off to go to FL with my wife, if I did it would have taken the cruise approved days out, big company doesnt believe in bereavement pay, even sick time comes off our vacation time, my how things have changed from 10 or so years ago my other employer gave me the whole week off with pay and nothing deducted from my banked time.
Sure hope you spend the last days with him.
My wife said the family will understand, guess what? NO WAY-they are mad as HE@@, told my wife to tell me to never see them again. Will they get over it someday? I hope so....
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Old November 19th, 2004, 10:32 AM
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Lisa, prayers going out that your family call all make it and that his final days be filled with peace and family.

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Lisa,

My prayers go out to you and your family for the strength to get through this difficult time. I hope that the whole family gets in to see him. Before my FIL passed, it was especially soothing to him that he could talk to everyone. May the Lord's blessings be upon you.

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Old November 19th, 2004, 11:30 AM
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Lisa, so sorry to hear of your impending loss. My prayers go out to you and your family.

BigCraig, there is the Family Medical Leave act which allows you to leave your position for up to 6 months to care for an ailing family member without losing your job. They don't have to pay you for the time you're gone, but they cannot fire you for leaving. It's against the law.

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Old November 19th, 2004, 11:40 AM
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May your family be blessed and find some peace in this difficult time. You will be in our prayers.
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Old November 19th, 2004, 11:56 AM
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Please accept condolences from Keith and me during this troubled time. I hope all the family members make it in. All of you need each other now for strength.

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Old November 19th, 2004, 12:54 PM
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You are in our prayers.........let family comfort you........

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Old November 19th, 2004, 02:23 PM
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Our prayer are with you and your family. May you be able to enjoy the time that is left
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My thoughts and prayers for you at this time.

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Thomas,
I know about FMLA, however because of past circumstances (several sick days and etc) I have been writen up and warned if I take anymore unscheduled time off in the next year I am gone, I asked my employer if I could go they told me to do what I think is right, another-words go and keep on going, its hard to fight them on the outside and job prospects are not good, but believe me I AM looking........
Airline mechanics are not in great demand right now and at 40 something it is hard to start over in something new.
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Lisa,

Hospice is one of the best specialties to come out of medicine and nursing. Welcome them with open arms and hearts and let them comfort all of you while they provide holistic and comfort care for your father-in-law. I will pray that all of the family can make it in on time. Hospice will provide what is needed for your loved one to pass with dignity and to help ease the pain for those left behind. I have been there and bless all of you at this difficult time.

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Oh Lisa, I am so sorry to hear this news. I really feel for you and your family at this difficult time. I hope all the family will be able to get there in time to spend some time with him before it's too late. We have a new Palliative Care Centre here that does the wonderful work that your Hospices do. At least I have the comfort of knowing it is available when we will eventually need it...

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I am very sorry to hear this sad news. I agree with Mike this is a time where the family will come together and might tie up some unfinished work. Keeping you guys in my prayers...........

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Lisa, please know you are all in my prayers.
Big Craig, I'll be praying thay the family will come around very quickly.

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Lisa,
I've been through this myself. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
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Lisa,
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully everything will work out with flights,etc.
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Thank You VTJen and everyone
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My Prayers are for you and your family right now

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