hope this is ok to ask

[Gene C]

whats best wayto ask someone(lady) 35-50 to go on cruise so that they don't think your jerkin their chain?And that you are serious

[cutiecat]

need more info.

do you know said lady? are you close? is it a present? are you doing it as a means to an end or just to be nice?

[BW]

HEY GENE:

Probably showing the receipt of a paid-up cruise with her name as one of the passenger. I would think that it would prove to any lady you are not jerking their chain and that you are committed & serious.

If you ask 80 days before the cruise and she refuses your offer, you can allways cancel with no penalty. If it's less than 80 days, well suffer the consequences.

Bill

[Gene C]

Originally Posted by cutiecat

need more info.

do you know said lady? are you close? is it a present? are you doing it as a means to an end or just to be nice?

I live in minnesota but drive truck around country I plan on parking at friends place in conroe tx while on trip It could be termed present and I would not expect anything other thansomeone to enjoy trip with my father and grandfather brought me up to respect women and have never foced myself on one and find that to be inconcievable.I have always let woman make moves this is not a means to an end so could be considered a gift,keep in mind cruise is pd for however

[venice]

hmmmmmmmm if you don't have some type of history with this person, a cruise may not be a good "first date' (but a GREAT 2nd date)

if you decide to pursue this, make sure everything is clearly understood upfront

let us know what she says if you ask her (that's the price you pay for posting on CruiseMates) 8)

[Dave the Wave]

I would say, "Hey would you like to go on a cruise with me?" and if she says no, then I would ask someone else.

[venice]

since you are a truck driver, you might want to take her on a short haul run first, then if everything goes ok, you might give Dave The Wave's suggestion a try..just be prepared for an answer you may not like

can you delay your cruise...you are lucky to have family give you that type of present

[Rev22:17]

Gene,

Originally Posted by You

whats best wayto ask someone(lady) 35-50 to go on cruise so that they don't think your jerkin their chain?And that you are serious

If you have been dating her for a while, just ask the question directly.

But I do have two very important recommendations.

>> 1. Before you book anything, discuss (1) destination, (2) berthing arrangements (shared cabin with a double bed, shared cabin with separate beds, or separate cabins), (3) dining arrangements (table for two or table for several), (4) financial arrangements (who is paying for what), and (5) expectations with regard to doing things together, both ashore and aboard ship, in advance. Discussion of these points will communicate that you really are serious. Also, make sure that she either has a passport that will be valid for the cruise or enough time to get a new passport before the cruise.

>> 2. Book the cruise based upon what she says that she would like to do. You really need to respect what she says if she says that she would not feel comfortable with a particular arrangement -- do NOT "push it" by booking an arrangement that she says would be uncomfortable for her behind her back. And if you find something different from what you booked when you arrive onboard, (your cabin made up with a double bed instead of twin beds, for example), make it your first priority to arrange to have it fixed.

Trust me -- you'll score a LOT of "brownie points" by booking a cruise to a destination where SHE would like to go and arrangements with which SHE will feel comfortable rather than booking your own preferences.

Norm.

[Rev22:17]

Gene,

Originally Posted by You

I live in minnesota but drive truck around country I plan on parking at friends place in conroe tx while on trip It could be termed present and I would not expect anything other thansomeone to enjoy trip with my father and grandfather brought me up to respect women and have never foced myself on one and find that to be inconcievable.I have always let woman make moves this is not a means to an end so could be considered a gift,keep in mind cruise is pd for however

Okay, in that case, do the following.

>> 1. Get an extra brochure on the cruise from your travel agent and give it to her.

>> 2. Explain to her that the cruise is already booked, but that you can add her to the booking if she would like to go and that you are flexible as to the type of arrangements. Tell her that she can either (1) share your cabin, at no cost, or (2) pay for her own cabin.

>> 3. Discuss the five points in my previous reply regarding arrangements and expectations.

>> 4. Give her some time -- at least a couple days -- to consider her options.

Do NOT add her to the booking until she agrees to go.

Norm.