Originally Posted by girlatsea
It's prohibited to all crew members to have any kind of relation that is not work related with the guests. Some of them do it of course, but are fired if they get caught. And also most of the guys are married specially the italian officers....
I guess I need to come here more often as GirlstSea has been giving some not exactly accurate information.
It depends on the cruise line, and the position the person is in.
You said "crewmember" but many positions are "staff-members" and generally they ARE allowed to socialize with the passengers, and on some lines even encouraged. The luxury lines often have officers (male & female) who show up at dances and mingle with the guests purposely to dance with them.
On "mass market" ship many workers are allowed to go to the disco for a drink at night, and in there they may socialize as much as they want to.
The ones who will likely get in trouble are the waiters or room stewards, because they are only allowed in passenger areas to do their jobs. However, if you want to ask a crewmember if they can meet you on shore sometime, there is nothing not allowed there. However, I have to advise you that you must use caution, as things that happen that are not good often happen as a result of such events.
Most stories you hear of alledged "sexual assault" on ships are actually he said/she said stories where a passenger claims the crew member went too far.
Crewmembers - also be warned. I have seen crew people get fired because they dated a girl on a ship, and her PARENTS reported it. The girl was 16, and liked the attention, but the parents did not like it.
If you (passenger) ever socialize with a shipboard worker just keep in mind what is really happening. It may be just about sex (usually is) because you will not see them again for a long time, and if it is not, then take your time if you want a relationship with them and get to know them before anything intimate happens.
Get their email address, give them a phone card, whatever. I have seen relationships born on cruise ships between passengers and staff that became marriages. It does happen.