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Old November 24th, 2006, 10:13 PM
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While on my last cruise there was a crew member I would have liked to had a chance to get together with would this have been possible if so how would I have approached this person to set up a private meeting ?
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Old November 26th, 2006, 01:25 AM
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It's prohibited to all crew members to have any kind of relation that is not work related with the guests. Some of them do it of course, but are fired if they get caught. And also most of the guys are married specially the italian officers....
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It's prohibited to all crew members to have any kind of relation that is not work related with the guests. Some of them do it of course, but are fired if they get caught. And also most of the guys are married specially the italian officers....
I guess I need to come here more often as GirlstSea has been giving some not exactly accurate information.

It depends on the cruise line, and the position the person is in.

You said "crewmember" but many positions are "staff-members" and generally they ARE allowed to socialize with the passengers, and on some lines even encouraged. The luxury lines often have officers (male & female) who show up at dances and mingle with the guests purposely to dance with them.

On "mass market" ship many workers are allowed to go to the disco for a drink at night, and in there they may socialize as much as they want to.

The ones who will likely get in trouble are the waiters or room stewards, because they are only allowed in passenger areas to do their jobs. However, if you want to ask a crewmember if they can meet you on shore sometime, there is nothing not allowed there. However, I have to advise you that you must use caution, as things that happen that are not good often happen as a result of such events.

Most stories you hear of alledged "sexual assault" on ships are actually he said/she said stories where a passenger claims the crew member went too far.

Crewmembers - also be warned. I have seen crew people get fired because they dated a girl on a ship, and her PARENTS reported it. The girl was 16, and liked the attention, but the parents did not like it.

If you (passenger) ever socialize with a shipboard worker just keep in mind what is really happening. It may be just about sex (usually is) because you will not see them again for a long time, and if it is not, then take your time if you want a relationship with them and get to know them before anything intimate happens.

Get their email address, give them a phone card, whatever. I have seen relationships born on cruise ships between passengers and staff that became marriages. It does happen.
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Old December 9th, 2006, 03:39 PM
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i am speaking from experience...i have been friends with someone who works on board a ship for 2 1/2 years...we communicate by email and sometimes by phone...it wasnt until recently that things changed a little for us.....i will say that it is very risky to have crew come to your cabin they can get fired....he is a waiter and i would never want to jeopardise his job so we talk on the phone when i am on board (house phone to cabin) and we meet off the ship whenever we can...i do have a friend who is the dining room manager so he will usually sit me in his section when i am on board so i can see him then.....but please be careful ....crew members do get fired if they get caught in a passenger cabin that is why it is not recommended to risk it.....
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Ill back up what paul said and im sure it has is differences with other companys, im a dj for RC and as staff we are incourged to mix and mingle with the guest. we can go out nightly and have drinks in certain bars around the ship (allowing guest to come first as always) and we can be envited to sit and socialize with guest. it all depends on your position on board. As for a private meeting on the ship unless it was in a lounge would be against standards, meeting in port however happens quite often we work on board and are at the ports quite often, there are always out of the way beaches, bars, shops, restraunts that few know about but are very nice/ in-expensive.
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Old March 14th, 2007, 10:57 AM
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This squares with everything I have observed as a RCCL passenger. For whatever reason, I always seem to have at least as much interaction with staff and crew as I do with other passengers.
Partly, it's because I'm a semi-pro musician and singer, so we have something in common, as most CD staff are essentially entertainers themselves, so we just seem to connect. Also, I honestly find staff and crew to be interesting people, and meeting interesting people and having conversations with smart, fun people is part of why I love going on cruises.
I have to say, I know passengers can be a massive pain, but I've never been made to feel that I was just another "cone" or that I was bugging them. I have tremendous respect for this quality that I find in the vast majority of ship staff and crew I've met.

Of course, part of that may have to do with the fact that I have a lovely wife and I'm not hitting on the staff in question. but I have played beach volleyball and traded tequila shots with CD staff, photographers and spa personnel in port. Always fun people!
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Hiya peeps..

i was on ships for 4 years..
Yes guests can socialise with crewmember...

obviously i dont mean have relationships etc.... but of course you can have chats and talk with them...

not sure what girl at sea meant...

I made lots of friends with guests... some of them however were a bit scary! lol... but i guess working as a purser... i used to see more angry sides to guests! but the majority, were brilliant! especially on CCL... fun fun fun!....


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Old March 24th, 2007, 11:09 AM
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A few years ago we took a cruise to Mexico..we were seated at out table with a teacher..she was single and pretty nice..well..she hooked up with the Maitre de....and we got the best service ever...wine...extra fancy appetizers and desserts..it was fun...she was just sleeping with him for fun..and then went back to her second grade class...I was glad my five year old at the time, did not understand..but she got some perks too..Lol...extra attention!
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wow...what a nice story...?

just sleeping with him for fun!!???
hope she was careful...because she wouldnt have been the only one!!!
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