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Old September 1st, 2007, 10:38 PM
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Has anyone had a serious relationship at home before you left to work on a cruise ship and if so how did you make it work while being gone months at a time?
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Yes, I have done that, and when I came home we pretty much picked up where we left off, but then again, we were already living to together at the time and she was also an artist who we both knew might have to go on tour any time.

I was gone 7 months, but it worked out.

It depends on how long you have been together, and how serious you are. We were engaged. And I admit, when I got back she had a few new male "friends" that had to be discouraged from hanging around.

If you are going to be gone for 6 months, it helps to write regularly, and if you are helping to support her then do send her money when needed.

Also - no matter what I say - it is always a risk, so you have to make this decision on your own.
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It's an old sayin that says that you either get married or divorced when working on a cruis ships, depending what your situation is before you join

I believe relationships meant to end, will end no matter if you work on a cruise ship or not.
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Thank you both for the information. I am waiting to hear back from steiner regarding wether or not I am hired yet as a massage therapist but if I do get hired I know that being gone for over 8 months well definitely be a test of our relationship and one that I hope it will pass.

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Old September 4th, 2007, 01:20 PM
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Let me ask you this - how faithful do you intend to be while you are gone, and how faithful do you expect her to be?
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Has anyone had any experience with a husband and wife working on the same ship? I've heard that they allow married couples to room together, but I've also heard that they do not. Anyone have any first had experiences with this, or know of a married couple that worked on the same ship?
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Lots of married couples work on the same ship - but it is a favor they extend to employees they really like wh have been with the company for many years. Sometimes the "find a job" for the wife or husband t keep them busy.

I new a musical director on HAL that had his wife and 5-yr old living on board with him. She did part-time in shorex and youth coordinator, but not really that much.

If people meet on board and get married, then they can live together, of course.
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Lots of married couples work on the same ship - but it is a favor they extend to employees they really like wh have been with the company for many years. Sometimes the "find a job" for the wife or husband t keep them busy.

I new a musical director on HAL that had his wife and 5-yr old living on board with him. She did part-time in shorex and youth coordinator, but not really that much.

If people meet on board and get married, then they can live together, of course.
I've been talking to a former NCLA employee and he says that married couples wont be allowed to live together while onboard...

My wife and I are considering applying together, working, working, working onboard for 2 years and saving up enough to get a house in a couple of years.

Anyone know for sure how NCLA approaches this?
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if you think about it, it doesn't make any sense not to have married couples livng together. That doesn't help anyone. I would try to get a clarification on that.

However, the privelege of living with your SO on board is something that comes after you have proved yourself, unless you are both equally and uniquely qualified for the jobs at the outset, which isn't likely.

Like I said, it is a courtesy they give to employees they feel are irreplacable any other way.
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Hey guys,

So I have been reading your posts and I am about to be in a similar situation. Though the situation is slightly reversed. My lady and I have been officially together, living together too, for 1 year and 3 months. But we have been great friends for many years prior. She has always had a dream about working on a cruise ship for a year and now that opportunity has arrived. How do you deal with the distance and how often can you communicate?
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So I have been reading your posts and I am about to be in a similar situation. Though the situation is slightly reversed. My lady and I have been officially together, living together too, for 1 year and 3 months. But we have been great friends for many years prior. She has always had a dream about working on a cruise ship for a year and now that opportunity has arrived. How do you deal with the distance and how often can you communicate?
Well I can definately understand what this is like for you currently. My gf and I have been together for nearly 2 yrs and it wasn't easy right away to learn that I wanted to work aboard a cruise ship. Seeing as I haven't started employment yet but will be taking off to do so on Oct 6th I can't say what the best way to keep close is. Since I'll be in HI I know that my cell phone will work at the ports so we plan to call or text message eachother whenever I get the chance. Also have the ability to e-mail which will be nice since you can send pics will also help.
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Well I can definately understand what this is like for you currently. My gf and I have been together for nearly 2 yrs and it wasn't easy right away to learn that I wanted to work aboard a cruise ship. Seeing as I haven't started employment yet but will be taking off to do so on Oct 6th I can't say what the best way to keep close is. Since I'll be in HI I know that my cell phone will work at the ports so we plan to call or text message eachother whenever I get the chance. Also have the ability to e-mail which will be nice since you can send pics will also help.


Well, she is the one actually going and i will be staying behind. But it is begining to sound like you two will be on the same ship! she leaves oct 6 and is also going to HI.
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Well I can definately understand what this is like for you currently. My gf and I have been together for nearly 2 yrs and it wasn't easy right away to learn that I wanted to work aboard a cruise ship. Seeing as I haven't started employment yet but will be taking off to do so on Oct 6th I can't say what the best way to keep close is. Since I'll be in HI I know that my cell phone will work at the ports so we plan to call or text message eachother whenever I get the chance. Also have the ability to e-mail which will be nice since you can send pics will also help.


Well, she is the one actually going and i will be staying behind. But it is begining to sound like you two will be on the same ship! she leaves oct 6 and is also going to HI.
What sort of position is she going to have on ship. I'm going to HI on oct 6th because I'm a Massage Therapist and I'll be starting my training for Mandara Spas aboard one of the ships. If she's also going to be working in the spa perhaps we could arrange some sort of transportation from the airport so we can both safe a little cash.
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Has anyone had any experience with a husband and wife working on the same ship? I've heard that they allow married couples to room together, but I've also heard that they do not. Anyone have any first had experiences with this, or know of a married couple that worked on the same ship?
I don't know about NCL but when I was on the Carnival Triumph two years ago they had a great bartender and waitress in the Casino who were married. It seemed to work well for them.
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most cruiseships, especially newer one, have a certain amount of couples cabins. priority is ALWAYS given to married/engages couples, so if you're not already married, put on your forms that you're engaged.
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