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Old February 15th, 2008, 02:52 PM
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Hi Everyone, My husband and I are highly considering working on a cruiseship together soon. I have read many good things online like; this is a good way to save money, a lot of companies are accomodating to rooming us together, etc. However I do want to know how life on board is for the couple?

I have a friend that used to work on the ships 18 years ago and now she works for Carnival CL Corporate. Her experience was great as a single person, however she thinks that men will be all over me and women will be throwing themselves at my husband. She said that some of the men from other countries don't have much regard for the marriage and try to hook up with american women to gain american citizenship. I believe my husband and I have a strong marriage, but I don't want constant harrassment.

I also am curious about sexual harassment laws and if they are enforced on international waters?

If there are any married couples out there that can give any info, or any other crew members that know how this all goes, that would be tremendously helpful!!!!

Also, does anyone know of any companies that for sure do or don't currently accomodate rooming/ship for new employees that are married?

Thank you thank you thank you!
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Old February 17th, 2008, 04:56 PM
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I have a friend that used to work on the ships 18 years ago and now she works for Carnival CL Corporate. Her experience was great as a single person, however she thinks that men will be all over me and women will be throwing themselves at my husband. She said that some of the men from other countries don't have much regard for the marriage and try to hook up with american women to gain american citizenship. I believe my husband and I have a strong marriage, but I don't want constant harrassment.[quote]

There are two categorys of people in this world. You and your husband have to decide what category you're going to fit into. Do you fit into the group of people who are constantly harrassed? Or are you perhaps, the type of people who people harrass once, and regret it for a long time. A short temper, in which you display the amount of restraint that you are having to use, can sometimes assist you in fitting into the latter category.
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She said that some of the men from other countries don't have much regard for the marriage and try to hook up with american women to gain american citizenship.
This may come as a chock to you, but for most ship crew the US is far from paradise on earth, rather the opposite

My experience is that it's a lot up to the couple how their relationship will be respected. If the wife is flirting a lot and in general behaving quite slutty, of course many men will hit on her. The same goes for the man.

I met my wife onboard and we lived together on ships for two years before we settled down ashore. It was known to everyone onboard that we were together and had a serious relationship, so we didn't experience any harassment.

That being said, don't expect life onboard to be anything like a normal life on land - there are a million codes
But if you adapt well to changes and are ok with a privacy limited to your very small cabin this may be a nice experience.

And if harassment really becomes a problem, just report it to your superior and it will be dealt with promptly - the cruise lines are very strict on that.
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Thanks Mr. Mate and Arion for your responses so far . I don't know if it was my friends bad experience or what that made her very negative about the whole idear.

So Mr. Mate, what jobs did you and your wife have? Was it easy to renew your contracts together once you got through the first one as a couple?

My husband is thinking of applying for a bartender job and I am going for a cruise staff position. Any suggestions for the application process?

Thanks everyone!

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if your from the US - bartending gigs are scarce for US citizens unless it's NCLA (now down to one ship?)

Speaking about RCCL - they'll berth married couples together if they're in the same department AND the berthing allows. It's never guaranteed. If the couple work in different departments - it's very hard as, say, the bar department gets "X" amount of cabins and the cruise division also gets their X amount of room and have to house everyone by gender. I've know several married couples who had to wait until the right number of male/female combinations came and went to possibly be in the same room, and then only for a couple of months.

If you're serious (and from the US), you might want to look into the art auction (parkwest) or shopping guide programs (onboard media) as they hire couples often and would house them together (and usually really good money). The concessions (photo/shops/casino) also often hire couples as they can berth them together easier.

Yes - the lifestyle is quite different and there are many who won't respect marriage, but it happens on land also . . . it's just on a ship everyone knows everyones business and quickly.
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Thanks Mr. Mate and Arion for your responses so far . I don't know if it was my friends bad experience or what that made her very negative about the whole idear.

So Mr. Mate, what jobs did you and your wife have? Was it easy to renew your contracts together once you got through the first one as a couple?

My husband is thinking of applying for a bartender job and I am going for a cruise staff position. Any suggestions for the application process?

Thanks everyone!

Binaca
Well, in our case it was a bit different. We met onboard (the beautiful SS Norway RIP ) I was first officer and she was initially in the purser department, but transfered to cruise staff. But when I later got promoted to the Majesty, she was granted transfer as well. I don't know if it was the official NCL policy, or just goodwill from the HR department.
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I think it is sad that you would even ask that question aboutr sexual harassment and the women throwing themselves at your husband.

I worked on six different ships. On one the band leader had his wife and 5 year-old boy living with him.

No one ever brought up the top of sexual harassment on any ship, you have been reading too much propaganda. When 98% of the crew is single, why would anyone hit on the married people - unless they were inviting it.

Remember, the people working on ships have jobs they want to keep. They aren't going to risk their jobs doing stupid things. Anything you have read about uninvited sex on ships is the rare case, one in a million.

But as others said - good luck. The cruise lines have found married couples generally do not make committed long-term employees compared to single people (or working as a single, anyway), and so rarely do they hire couples as a team. You had both be very qualified at the job you want.

Good luck, though.
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