Congratulations on 57 years! How wonderful. I'm sorry your vow renewal was not what you expected. On our 7/28 NYC to Southampton crossing, we had a monsignor from Brooklyn (Father Ryan, of Irish ancestry) on the ship. When I signed up for our particpation, I spoke to Father Ryan (jokingly asking if we needed to be Catholic - of course not), he told me this was his first time to do such a ceremony on a ship and he was not certain what was expected. As it turned out, it was great. All the couples stood and we repeated (each one separately, to the spouse) words he had chosen. It was so moving, I have to admit I cried. It was a very emotional experience for us. (I'll also admit that we also agreed we needed to renew our vows, because after trying to get my husband into his tux each night was about to head us for divorce!!)
But we are so happy we took this trans-Atlantic cruise!