I read some threads here today and I'm concerned about not having a letter from my daughter's father. She is 12 and has been on 2 cruises already with my husband (her stepfather) and myself and we've never had an issue regarding documentation for custody.
Now, 6 days before our cruise, I read on these boards that I need a letter from her bio father giving permission for me to take her on the cruise. Getting it from him can be tricky, as he is tough to get in touch with, lives in another state and would need to overnight the letter to us somehow. I'm not sure we need one because:
1. She doesn't have his last name on her passport- it is my married name, which is also on my passport as well.
2. I wasn't married to her father so there is no divorce documentation
3. She's been on two cruises before and no one has asked about anything like this before.
4. Even if I did have a letter from him, how would I prove that the letter is from her father? She doesn't have his name, so I could pick any guy and have him claim to be her dad for this purpose and it wouldn't make a difference to the person checking her in, so what's the poin? We aren't bringing her birth certificate because we are using her passport as her ID.
Can someone give me insight here? Her dad is incredibly lazy and hard to motivate to do anything that won't benefit him directly, so even if I call him and beg him to do this, it would likely take a few days and may not show up in my mailbox til we leave anyway.
Also, I called RC three times this morning for various questions and each time I asked just to make sure we were going to be okay. The first person I talked to said we don't need it, the second person said I do need the letter but when I explained further that she has my maiden name and not her fathers last name, she changed her mind and said that I dont' need it, and then a third person said as long as I'm using her passport and not her bc then we will be okay.
So, should I jump through hoops to get him to overnight this to me or let it go since I've had three RC staffers tell me not to bother with it?