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Old March 17th, 2005, 12:45 AM
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Hi all,
Just wanted to say that I have travelled with four "online strangers" so far and will be going with the fifth in May (Grand Princess Med Cruise).
I must admit that the first time was a little scary, but I contacted someone on travelchums who seemed to have a similar personality and interests to myself. We emailed and eventually talked on the phone, prior to booking our cruise. It just was very natural and felt right. Once we met, it seemed we had been friends forever......everyone we met onboard thought we had been friends our whole lives!!!
We are still in touch and since then I have had the pleasure of meeting and travelling with three other ladies that contacted me through solotraveller or cruisemates. Each experience was great and I am still in touch with all of them.
I think meeting and travelling with an "online stranger" is adventurous and a unique experience. Just use caution and common sense and you will be fine! And having a sense of humor doesn't hurt!!!
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Old March 21st, 2005, 11:18 AM
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Jack1214 - If you've read the entire post, you will understand why I am asking this: Did you specify that you wanted a FEMALE roommate? Although I would love to have a dance partner (disco), I don't think I would want to room w/ a man I'd never met...mainly because I wouldn't like having to dress in the bathroom!
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Old March 21st, 2005, 11:30 AM
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yes, i did specify a female. i don't really want to hang with another guy on vacaction, especially on a cruise. i have taken my wife on a cruise and she hated it! so i have cruised with four different females on a total of eight cruises. no problems. from the start, i am up front, all the time, on my expectations.i respect their space, only asking for a companion with a sense of humor. i have a stress loaded life and cruise to unwind and enjoy. all four cruisemates continue to keep in touch, and the last turned out to be the best. we will continue to travel and cruise together whenever our vacation times match. so yes it does work, if you are honest.
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Old March 24th, 2005, 08:52 PM
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THAT's a very understanding wife! OR, maybe you should consider becoming a dance host!
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Old March 25th, 2005, 11:33 AM
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I think that unknown "pot luck" roomates are problematic. I am 55, straight (as far as I know hahahaha) lots of us older guys had enough of dormitories, barracks etc. When going to conventions and so on with a male roomate, lo and behold you get "lucky" or at least enough to talk privately and watch pay for view or something with a woman (who usually have roomates) and then the guy in the room is there or not there but peed on the toilet seat left tread marked underwear on the floor or some godawful thing. Heck, you may be better off with a gay guy as a roomate.......gay guys I've known are like anybody else; there are some people they are attracted to and others they are not. One time I shared a room with this guy at a convention in Austin, kind of a good looking guy.............i guess. But his wife told me before leaving that for some reason or another he was a real what she described as a "fag magnet". When we went to drink and so on on those party streets in Austin, I couldnt count the number of times the guy was "hit on" AND then they started "hitting on me" (I suppose thinking I must be special to have somebody like him) We finally went to a cowboy bar on the outskirts of town and shot some pool.....Actually its the same thing with women. If I am with a beatiful 30 something woman, then all kinds of women "hit on" me thinking I must be something special to have such a good looking woman.

I went on a trip with a woman my age I met on a cruise. If we tried to save money by renting one room we were assumed to be married and when they saw no rings when "turning in" for the night I got all these winks and things from the hotel staff........well that is central america, in the US it isnt as bad.

Ive seen some really terrible things happen with male-female roomates on a ship...at some pont it seems the guy tries to "do it' with her regardless of compatibility which has caused some nasty scenes and cabin trading things. Women rooming together seems to have somewhat more success, and there isn't a bunch of raised eybrows about it. (Probably based on that most guys BELIEVE women are just a half bottle of wine away from having sex with each other anyway hahahhahah).

I think its probably better if single to save up some money and pay more for single supplement or put it on a charge card to avoid the wierdness of it all. John from NM

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Old March 25th, 2005, 03:28 PM
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i am confused about the dance host, but YES, I do have a wonderful wife. thanks for agreeing with me.
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Old March 25th, 2005, 05:29 PM
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John G:

An interesting response about 'potluck' Cabinmates!!!!
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Old March 26th, 2005, 10:18 AM
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If you are a "Dance Host" on a cruise ship, you get a VERY discounted rate & are employed to DANCE w/ the single women on the ship. You are employed by the cruise for that cruise. Is that what was confusing?
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Old March 26th, 2005, 12:14 PM
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I have just cruised with an online cabinmate one time. From my personal experience, I would advise against it. BE SURE to ask your cabinmate about health problems before booking with them. and pray that they are being honest with you. On the group we traveled with 3 others had paired cabinmates arranged by the cruise director and it really didn't work out too good for any of them. If you decide to got for it hope it works out well, sounds like it has for many people. I personally will pay the single supplement next time. JD
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Old May 31st, 2005, 04:38 AM
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Bump:

Ever found a roommate for a cruise online? How did that work out??
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Old June 6th, 2005, 04:05 PM
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I'm a single 50 year old female who pays the single supplement rather than share with someone I'm unfamiliar with. I have sailed solo several times in the last few years, with upcoming cruises again booked in October 2005 (Caribbean), April 2006 (Panama Canal) and September 2006 (Alaska).

I would, however, like to share the cruise experience with a single male also able to have his own cabin - in the interest of platonic companionship and stimulating conversation. While I have always been made to feel welcomed onboard at dinner tables and cocktail lounges by some really wonderful people, there are times when I feel as if I'm aboard the SS Noah's Ark which can, at times, make one feel out-of-place . . . in any event, if you are one who would want to cruise solo without the experience of having to do it alone, perhaps you'd like to book on one of my upcoming cruises.
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Old June 8th, 2005, 01:03 AM
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I'm a senior and new to this cruisemate business. SWM - with a number of gay as well as straight male friends. I don't care whether my cabin mate is gay or straight and I am unwilling to define myself in those terms. (I am recently widowed after a long - 27 year - hetero, happy marriage.) I think I have enough confidence in myself to handle the sexual orientation innuendos and I refuse to be put into a box. In addition I have absolutely no desire to hook up with ANYONE romantically right now. I love to dance, flirt etc. But, please, let me just live my own life. (I AM considerate, by the way, not quite as self centered as that may sound.) But I do wonder if my age is a turnoff. I don't think of myself as a senior and I look and act like a person 10 years younger (so say others.)

Anyway, I am now booked for this year, but if any males - gay or straight - think they might like to hook up next year to take almost any cruise let me know.

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Old June 8th, 2005, 01:05 AM
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LJ- I just (6/7/05) posted my response which might be of interest to you.

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Old June 14th, 2005, 10:21 AM
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I am male and had one response with 2 postings. I think I would do better if
I were advertising for a gay male or willing to pay the fare for the companionship of a woman. Well gee? If i'm paying for the companionship of a woman, that's like an
escort.......Well in that case why don't I just hire an escort and get the pick of the
litter and the Honeymoon package......????
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Old June 15th, 2005, 01:17 AM
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To Mr. John Doe, when you go on a date dont you pay for the date? If you go on a cruise with a woman and pay the tab it is the same thing. Like any blind date or any cruise roommate situation it may or may not end up being more. The money involved is not significant for the high quality of man likely to take a woman on a cruise date. If you go on a cruise with a woman you meet on this web site at least you know you have something in common a like of cruising. Having compatible interests is important in a good relationship
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Old October 7th, 2005, 12:32 PM
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Bump!!!
Have you found a cabinmate online through this or some other site?

How did it go??

Would you recommend sharing a cabin with an 'online stranger'?

Any suggestions for those who may be planning on sharing with an 'online stranger'??
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HAY...I'M ALWAYS READY TO CRUISE....AND I'M LAYED BACK AND ENJOY MY TIME...
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Old November 29th, 2005, 01:17 AM
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I would just like to add my 2 cents. When I was single I always cruised with an ex-roommate that I had known since high school. We both like to cruise, but could not afford to cruise alone. We have very different personalities, and were often mistaken for a "couple." On the first two cruises, I got hit on by more men than women!!!! I think that TR has a point about society, but have no qualms about cruising with another male, regardless of sexual preference. Again, just my 2 cents.

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To answer your question... yes I found a cabinmate on this site about 1 year ago... after only one posting and it only took 3 days to find one. we have cruised 4 times this year. So it does work... keep trying and posting.
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Experiences with sailing with stangers?

Suggestions for those of us trying to find cruisemates online????
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Reviving an older topic.........
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I think the key to finding a room mate on here or other sites is to be upfront and communicate multiple times about likes/dislikes and concerns, prior to booking! If your looking for possible romance or "hookups" than state that. If your single with no desire but for a great travel experience and someone to dine with say so. Or ask, I don't think someone should take offense to someone asking if your gay, looking for something more than a travel partner or anything similar. Your going to be living so to say with that person for however many nights. These are things you have a right to ask and know! If you don't discuss things like snoring, lifestyle, drinking habits or for women, clothes changing habits, prior to cruising of course the likely hood of having a poor cruise is higher.

I'm single and in a relationship, my boyfriend can't travel on active-duty. So I found a partner on here, we are yet to book, but thus far things seem to be going well. I look forward to our communications and booking with her!
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Janielle,

I could not have said it better.

Stating your habits and preferences HONESTLY up front is an absolute must.

In addition to the issues you raised, here are a few things I think are worth discussing.

-Shower times (morning or evening)
-The safe (generally extra safes r avail @ pursar's desk on most ships)
-overnight or daytime guests in the cabin (for me.. a no-no)
-morning vs night person
-lights in the cabin if the other person is sleeping
-smoking
-recreational drug use (another no-no for me)
-medications
-snoring ******** I repeat only because it can be a BIG issue.
-whether you are looking just for a cabin mate, or for a twin to do everything with
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I think the key to finding a room mate on here or other sites is to be upfront and communicate multiple times about likes/dislikes and concerns, prior to booking! If your looking for possible romance or "hookups" than state that. If your single with no desire but for a great travel experience and someone to dine with say so. Or ask, I don't think someone should take offense to someone asking if your gay, looking for something more than a travel partner or anything similar. Your going to be living so to say with that person for however many nights. These are things you have a right to ask and know! If you don't discuss things like snoring, lifestyle, drinking habits or for women, clothes changing habits, prior to cruising of course the likely hood of having a poor cruise is higher.

I'm single and in a relationship, my boyfriend can't travel on active-duty. So I found a partner on here, we are yet to book, but thus far things seem to be going well. I look forward to our communications and booking with her!
I agree with this post !!
Thanks for posting
Everyone seeking a cabinmate should be up front as to what exactly there are looking for...
No surprises

And I think that emailing ahead of time
and phone conversations prior to sailing would also be beneficial.
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It's really hard to tell if your in contact with someone who's really looking for a cabin mate or if their just replying as a joke to your thread.
I was in contact with someone that I thought was a very compatable cabin mate for me.And I stupidly wrote to the other person I was in contact with(a very nice person who really wanted a cabin mate) to let them know I found a cabin mate.Because I thought I did.Well anyway I booked the cabin and wrote and told this person that they had 24 hours to book and you can pretty much guess the rest.They did not book and I did not hear from them again.
I can only assume it was a "hoax" or this person changed their mind.
I'm sure there are alot of reliable people out there who really want a cabin mate.I just didn't get one of them...
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As th editor of this site this is an interesting topic. Looking for roommates online is not necessarily something we agree with or disagree with. We put this board up mostly because when we first started the site 10 years ago we realized it was called cruisemates so at least "some" people would be coming here looking to find cruisemates. But in all honesty, it was never our focus.

I am sure many people have found roommates online, and I completely agree the key is defining your expectations honestly ahead of time.

My problem is that I snore. I could never have a roommate, unless they were willing to wear earplugs. They work.

In any case, I am happily married now. Not looking for a cruisemate. But if I were... I would,

probably want someone who is fairly social. I would be bummed if they didn't want to even talk to me. People who just don't talk are "boring" frankly.

I would like it if they wanted to dine with me, but didn't expect me to join every meal. I like to be flexible when it comes to food.

I definitely would not want a twin.

ALSO - I have heard stories about the roommate who "lost her credit card" so she had to borrow money all the time, but never paid it back. Tours were booked on one account, etc, all the time the person believing her new 'friend" would surely not let her down.

So, when looking for a cabinmate - be sure to ask about employment, etc. Ask subtle questions "what kind of car do you drive." If he/she says - "usually a porsche but its broken down now so I have been taking the bus for a couple months" think twice.
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I have just started looking for a cabinmate for a cruise on Aug. 23 that I hope to book. Will let you know how that works out. As far as the idea that other men thinking a guy would be gay because he has a male roommate, that is poppycock. I mean, if that were the case, two businessmen sharing a room in a hotel while on company business would be considered gay as well. You are there to have fun. As far as I go, half the time people think I am gay just because I have a sense of style(in a very uncosmopolitan area) and I am sure they will make gay jokes because I am in an artistic field. Doesn't bother me one bit to be honest. As long as I am happy that is all that matters. I would think people should quit being so self-concious and start being a little more tolerant of guys who prefer to be masculine but not macho.
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