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Old September 9th, 2003, 08:56 PM
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I just don't get all the fuss about wearing a tuxedo,or I guess about not wanting to wear one?? when I first ask my husband if he wanted to buy one since we do choose to cruise at least once a year, he kinda grunted and moaned about wearing a monkey suit, then I ask him if he could remember a single time that he did wear a tux that he did not end up getting laid??
I don't know about most of you ladies out there, but the sight of my man all dressed up like that drives me wild. To me a tuxedo has the same effect that trashy (I meant sexy)lingerie has on him, I really think it is a fair trade, I will gladly wear what he likes if he will wear what I like, We both end up smiling afterwards.
if I was him (my husband) I would just put it on all the time,he like most guys never get enough,if he would just put it on for me I would gladly take it off for him!!!
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Old September 9th, 2003, 11:02 PM
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My husband doesn't mind wearing a tuxedo on a cruise or for a charity event.

I love getting ready and watching him put together all the tux accessories.
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Old September 10th, 2003, 10:35 AM
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i don't understand it either, maybe its because its so far out of their traditional everyday wear - outside of their comfort zone. Oh and guys, the "its so uncomfortable and the tie is so restrictive" excuse won't fly with most of us, try wearing control pantyhose and high heels for a few hours and then we might talk restrictive! <VBG>

ATTENTION ALL MEN!! MOST WOMEN LOVE MEN IN A TUX OR DRESS SUIT - THINK JAMES BOND!
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Old September 10th, 2003, 12:42 PM
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I agreed.. Love to see men in a tux. It brings out the romance
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Old September 10th, 2003, 01:15 PM
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, you girls are funny! Love the pantyhose and high heels line.

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Old September 10th, 2003, 02:12 PM
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Harry, as the only man to speak up so far, what is your opinion as to why most men hate to wear tuxes and suits? Come on guys, don't be afraid
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Old September 10th, 2003, 02:48 PM
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Guess what, I'm not really into the tux thing. I think they look old fashioned and fuddy duddy and that "cumberbund " thing looks like its for holding their tummys in. Also bow ties remind me of nerdy professors, I do like the white dinner jacket with the new style button neck collar, modern and stylish!
Now this is only my opinion so don't go on the war path, it may be an age thing( or not) since I'm in my early forties and tuxes to me make me think "wedding party"
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Old September 10th, 2003, 07:32 PM
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so Harry have you ever worn a tux, and not got lucky??
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Old September 11th, 2003, 09:26 AM
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The newer style tuxes are very fashionable. I really like the ones with the banded collar and matching button covers & cuff links (No Ties Guys) cumberbunds are very out, vests and suspenders have replaced those old things. Pleated shirts are very in. Ruffles are very out. I know that there will always be the stigma of wedding and prom attached to a tux, i think i understand that, I love the white dinner jacket combo that is so stunning! again i will go back to my James Bond comparrison.
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Old September 11th, 2003, 12:37 PM
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Seems like most of the people who like tux's are ladies. I have never worn a tux and will never wear a tux even if it meant getting something special afterward. Any time I have to button my collar and wear a tie is uncomfortable, and a coat of any sort at dinner is just plain too warm. My wife does not wear high heels, and the elegant clothes that she does wear appear a lot more comfortable and cool than a suit or tux. I like to dress for comfort and not what someone else considers appropriate. I believe that I speak for many men.
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Old September 11th, 2003, 01:24 PM
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Paul do i understand you correctly? never? You would not wear a tux (for example) to walk your daughter down the aisle at her wedding? You would not wear a tux if you were a best man at a wedding? You would not wear a tux if you were invited to a black tie event? Never? even if asked to for those special events, you wouldn't make an exception?
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Old September 11th, 2003, 08:35 PM
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If I had to, I would, but someone would have to give me the tux! I hate to wear any kind of coat and tie thingie. I wear dress slacks and a polo style sports shirt to dinner on non formal nights, and I wear slacks and non offending t shirts on shore.
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Old September 11th, 2003, 09:28 PM
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Really if you are totally aposed to wearing a tux, I don' have a problem with you making that choice, I am aware it is not the most comfortable outfit to wear, but it does look very SEXY to me, alot of clothes (especially womens clothes) are not comfortable, but they sure do look good, for instance Bras... wouldn't the world be a great place with out underwires pushing our breast up and in in order to make them look like they did when we were young, and what if we all threw away all those high heals and pantie hose that make our legs look so nice, yeah that would be so much more comfortable, and I think maybe we all should wear nothing but sweatpants, gee I know I look sooo good in sweat pants, I'd probably drive my husband wild running around like that.
we all get to dress however we want, thank goodness, & I wouldn't want to have to dress up all formal everyday, but I sure am glad that my husband will dress up for me, and I sure don't mind dressing up for him, it's something we do for each other,and as I posted earlier we both reap the rewards.
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Old September 12th, 2003, 09:24 AM
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Oh ladies i just got a great idea!!! lets switch for the evening! I will more than glady wear a tux for the evening and have the men wear an evening gown (will all the requirements) that way we can have first hand knowledge as to what all the complaining is about!!!!
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Old September 12th, 2003, 10:24 AM
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Here we go again (although from a slightly different perspective) the old 'to tux or not to tux' debate.

Personally I like to dress-up as it's a break from the norm, my wife likes me to dress in a tux and I like her to dress-up as well - although the getting laid bit is not usually possible with a 14 year old daughter sharing the cabin - BTW she loves to dress up as well.

I like to conform with whatever the dress code is for the evening as I believe it shows all round respect for everything that cruising is about. I don't care whether it's considered old fashioned, I like to stick to the rules as you always know where you stand.

The whole dinner suit (English for tux) outfit can become a bit hot by the end of the evening (especially after a bit of boogying on down on the disco floor), but I don't think most people are bothered about you taking off the jacket and the bow tie by then.

The whole dressing up or down debate seems to crop up everywhere. I don't despise those that don't dress-up, I just think that they are missing something - they just don't get it. It's not about personal choice, freedom or liberty, or any of the usual stuff spouted by the 'anti-tux' lobby, it's about respect and making an ordinary event, i.e dinner, into something special.

I've pretty much lost the thread of the original message, but I definitely agree with the sentiments.

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Old September 12th, 2003, 11:56 AM
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very well said, rayo! No one has ever gone running away screaming in horror when my husband takes his jacket off after dinner.
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Old September 12th, 2003, 03:47 PM
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Very good reason...................tuxes are usually wool. And underneath, a long sleeve shirt. Oh so comfy don't you think? To top it off they dance in those outfits and sit through dinner in them. We ladies in our sleeveless gowns just don't get that do we?

My husband looks fab in a tux but I know he just dies in them so lately we take his tux pants and a colorless tux shirt, no jacket.
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Old September 13th, 2003, 01:37 PM
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Ok Here is 2 more cents worth, how about if the man is about 75 lbs overweight? Yeah, sure, here comes the lose the weight line but that is not always possible. and it's just not the men who are overweight on formal nights. I've seen some ladies that shouldn't be wearing that sleeveless cocktail dress or formal gown. Anyway, by the time you get the pants, shirt, and a bow tie that fits so well under that stack of flapjacks that is called a neck, add a temp. of 80 degrees in the dining room, don't expect a man to be pleasant company over the entree that gets served about an hour after you sit down at the table.
Personally, I go for the dark suit, with the banded collar, I have 4 of them, black, white, greenish-brown, and almond and black shoes. When I get to the table and am sitting down in the seat that I paid just as much for as the guy in the tux, if it's too hot, I slip off the jacket and finish my dinner in comfort.
Now I'm done venting about the dress codes, but I think it's more to do with the cruising tradition, and believe me, if I could wear a tux, and be comfortable, I would wear one in a minute. As a matter of fact, I'm thinking about completely giving up on the idea of being comfortable on our next cruise which is a back to back and getting a tux for the FOUR formal evenings.



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I'm a man. Have been for 53 years <G>, and I honestly can not see what is particularily uncomfortable about a tux. Though I agree the cumberbunds are a bit of an odd accessory. I deal with that, by wearing a vest and winston tie.

There are now many tuxedo shirt styles that require no tie at all as well.

Even the temperature issue is a non starter in my view. Most ships dining rooms and public rooms are pretty heavily air conditioned. And I believe with a vest, it's pretty easy to remove the jacket, and still maintain a "nice look", in the event it does get warm.

At any black tie wedding or event I've attended, if the dancing gets going hot and heavy, most men do remove their jackets.

Truth be known, I found jeans just as uncomfortable as any suit I've put on. They are generally heavy material, and not all that flexible.

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Old September 13th, 2003, 07:43 PM
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Hubby bought his first tux this past spring. He loved to dress up. He wore it 2x on our Mercury Alaska cruise in June and for our oldest daughters wedding 8/3/03. Sadly, he passed away suddenly 8/28/03 even before we saw the wedding picture proofs .
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Old September 13th, 2003, 08:15 PM
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So sorry to hear about your loss, I hope you did get some great photos of him from the wedding,I'm sure, just having him be there for her wedding was a special enough event, but to have him looking so fine, is an extra bonus.
Take care of yourself, I know how hard it must be to loose your partner,
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Old September 14th, 2003, 02:00 PM
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No tux for me. Black Jacket, black slacks, dark shirt and tie. Depending on my weight at the time I can buy new slacks for less than $40. Never even priced a tux as I think it's cost would be prohibitive consider the amount of times I would wear it.



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Old September 15th, 2003, 10:40 AM
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I just emailed my husband (he's out of town on biz), and asked him what he would prefer, renting a tux, buying a tux, buying a dark suit, or making one of his dark suits work. Knowing my husband, he would probably want to buy a tux.

One of the actractions to cruising is the opportunity to do things we don't do (or do enough of), is dress up. I love the tradition of the "dressing" for dinner. It just makes the event that much more special. And since we will be on board over New's Years Eve, I think we should go ALL OUT.

And I'm with Jo, nothing is more sexy than a man in a tux or dress military uniform (especially Marines in Dress Blues or Navy Officers in Dress Whites, mmmm mmmmm).

And I feel sexy and grown up when I dress up. I am even planning to purchase a suit for my 6 year old son. He wore a tux recently as a ring bearer in a wedding, and I love the pictures. He loved dressing up. I don't know if we will go to the expense of renting him a tux thought, since he may choose to eat with the other kids several nights in the Adventure Club.

Oh, well. I hope the cruise lines, never stop the formal nights.

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Old September 18th, 2003, 10:41 AM
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ZZTop puts it perfect...Every girls crazy bout a sharp dressed man...Oh Yeahhhh
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Old September 23rd, 2003, 03:06 PM
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Personally, I think tuxes are great. Suits, too. I don't find either of them to be the least bit uncomfortable. Plus, my wife totally loves it, so I really can't lose. I mean, I'm REALLY looking forward to seeing her in her little black dress and heels, so the least I can do is clean up a little.

We really look forward to the formal nights. Having a martini in the casino with a hot woman on my arm - how can you beat that? It's like being James Bond for the night!
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