Tom, don't give up. Believe it or not, there are people who go on c ruises that do not visit Cruisemates. Can you imagine? They just don't know what they are missing!
Be sure to go to the Singles Section of Cruisemates and read all my articles on solo cruising. I think you will find some good tips to help you have a wonderful cruise. And be sure to let us hear all about it when you return.