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DJB July 14th, 2004 07:47 PM

Single cruising as in truly single
I have read so many posts on this web-site in the last month or so....

I have read about people who went on a cruise because other half had to work or whatever....

I have read about people who have gone on arranged single cruises.

BUt has anyone truely gone on a cruise as Single as could be... and not on an arranged singles cruise?

Secondly, i have read Pat's colomns and a few others that state to ask to be seated with single people also. Now I did not book through a TA, or the cruise line, but one of the BIG name travel websites, Travelocity.. actually. Now how would i go about requesting seating with other singles.. Can I call the cruiseline now? or do I do that on board first thing?

Out of curosity what is the percentage chance that there will be other single cruisers on a ship, if no arranged single events?

It is not like I am asking to "hook-up"... I more asking to have a friendly dinner with people, maybe catch a drink at a bar, and maybe go gambling at the ship casino, or an exchursion together.. Glory

Pat Hagan Singles Editor July 14th, 2004 08:17 PM

Re: Single cruising as in truly single
If you will skim through the postings on this message board you will find several from people who have gone on cruises, as in "truly single." Me, included, several times. Actually I love to cruise by myself.

As I always advise, seek out the maitre 'd' as soon as you board. He is always in a dining room taking care of table assignments for those with special requests. Tell him you want to be seated with other singles. His hours will be posted in the first day's schedule of events that you will find in your cabin...usually next to your life jacket. You should also see a time for the get-acquainted party for singles. If there is not one, then go find the Cruise Director and tell him/her you would like to help organize one.

As for predicting how many singles will be onboard, there's just no way. Sorry. Just make up your mind to have a great time, regardless. And be sure to post here when you return and tell us all about it.

Good luck!

KathyInFlorida July 14th, 2004 08:21 PM

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Yes, I cruised as a "truly single" last December. Just a regular cruise (not a "singles cruise"). I'm a 40-year-old divorced female. Booked a room just for myself and paid the high single supplement---but I also felt that was better than just finding anybody that would go with me, as I could come and go when I wanted, not worry about sharing the bathroom or the extremely sparse cubic feet of space in the cabin, snorers, smokers, people that felt they were obligated to "tag along" with me everywhere, etc. I called a travel agent and just booked the cruise. Told the travel agent that I wanted the LATE SEATING for dinner, as more families will book early seating, and the odds were better in late seating to have other singles. She asked what size dinner table I wanted to be seated at---I specified THE LARGEST, again upping my odds of meeting more singles, or even just more people. The travel agent, as well as other people, advised me to go to the dining room as soon as I boarded the ship and request to be put with other singles, although she said that most ships try to put people in "cabins for 1" together. I ended up at a table for 10---five of us were singles, and then there was a couple with their two children (who, I might add were wonderful--so many people snub families and children).

In addition to that, just get up and about, go everywhere and do everything---there WILL be singles around. It seems like everyone says Carnival is the line to take for singles, but I went on Royal Caribbean and had a fantastic time. Go to the lounges, discos, pool bars, etc--and there will be singles. On the ship, these are a lot more like "meeting places" than the typical lounges/bars around towns (which I do NOT frequent). I was rather worried before the cruise, as I tend to be a very shy, introverted person, but I just made a point of getting out there and enjoying is what you make it!

You should avoid the usual "spring break" and "school vacation/holiday" timeframes, as the ships tend to be predominantly "family oriented" at those times.

Having said all that, feel free to contact me if you have any questions. Do you have a cruise booked? What line and when? More and more people traveling as "singles" now than ever before! Have a wonderful time---you deserve it!


DJB July 14th, 2004 08:22 PM

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Hey Pat.. thanks for the quick response...

Believe me one way or another I will have a good time.... But it is always fun to find someome to have a few laughs with also.

If you see any singles going on the Glory Sept 4th sailing send them my way...

or if you just know any fun people also.

DJB July 14th, 2004 08:34 PM

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Good feedback.... I did also slect the late seating... I only did that at first because I thought if I go on shore excurision I do not want to be rushed to try and make dinner... and also maybe take a nice nap to get ready for the night-life. I am going on Carnival Glory Sept 4th...

I am 31/m ....

For me.. this is my reasoning of going solo.. my family always has obligations... and trying to round them all up is a hassle... Most of my freinds are also teachers... While they have off during the summer... that is mainly my busy time....

PLus I own my own house, and have ot make all the ussualy payments... So going during this time is the cheapest time that I could find within 6 month window...

So I think I have enough money, and time to travel ... Well.. life live.. and travel..

KathyInFlorida July 14th, 2004 08:45 PM

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I had so many friends and coworkers saying they would never go on a cruise alone. I guess with their reasoning, I would have spent my vacation at home painting the living room, recaulking the bathtub and trimming the hedges. Instead I enjoyed a 7 day cruise with some wonderful people, had enjoyable meals (which I didn't have to shop for, prepare or clean up after), enjoyed a therapeutic stone massage, snorkeled in Grand Cayman, spent a day in Cozumel, went to shows, karaoke, made some "charitable donations" at the casino, enjoyed some "fu-fu drinks" and basked in the sun. Hmmm.... what WAS I thinking? LOL.

DJB July 14th, 2004 08:56 PM

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Kathy.. your thinking is so in line with mine...

I also figured this ... I sleep alone.. I have gone to a casino alone.. I have gone to restaurants alone... and have always been able to strike up conversations with why would I not be able to do same on a cruise...

Also for the price... how can I beat it.. I am coming from ny going to Port Canceral ... cost is less than $2k for me.. I took a balcony room also..

So my math.... if I was not to go on a cruise.. but go somewhere...
$300 for aifare.
$350 for food (figured 7 night $50 a day , honeslty I think that is a low number)
$980 for hotel stay (figured $140 a night.. again I think this number is a low number )

So to go anywhere would probably cost me at least $1630.... and no worries on a cruise...

BTW... there is a song titled "what WAS I thinking" it is pretty funny...

CruizinSuzin July 14th, 2004 10:55 PM

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12/20/04 Carnival Inspiration, Cruising alone...... well sort of. I'm taking my two teenage
boys with me. For their birthday/Christmas/welcome to adulthood/this is the last major thing I'm paying for you trip! Fortunately, I'm blessed with two very, very good kids, who I have no doubt will be totally courteous cruisers. I picked the first seating, not thinking of the later seating that may be better for singles. I may need to change that to the last seating - thanks for the heads up!

morris July 15th, 2004 09:57 AM

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You can check the picture gallery the first night, they would have the picture up when taken when you board the ship. You can figure out how many singles are on board.
Also talk to the matrie'd and him if there is table for singles, try to catch him when it is not busy, he can check the computer and look up who's single and seated where.
I have met other singles while waiting at the airport for boarding, you can tell by the luggage tag, while getting a drink at the bar, while seated to other singles on excusion.


DJB July 15th, 2004 10:11 AM

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Good tips there Morris

51 days....

lauriloo July 15th, 2004 09:52 PM

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I'm a single newly 40 woman and I just got back from the Carnival Fascination. Had a great time solo. Dined with other singles (no guys for me but lovely people to talk with). Met some great people in the disco and one guy in particular who made my birthday quite special. Hang out in the clubs at night and cruise by the pool during the day. You'll see plenty of singles. Talk to everyone you can.

Whiteknight July 16th, 2004 10:15 AM

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I've done the single thing solo and with single's groups, and I just wasn't all that impressed with the solo thing. You're really at the mercy of plain old luck. You can see if the maitre d' can help you, which is really hit and miss, and you can look for people standing alone in the dining room, bars, on deck, in lines or anywhere else, but you still don't know if they're really single. And all that time spent on looking for Mr/Miss Right, could have been spent enjoying the cruise if you let someone else, like a single's group, do most of the footwork. If you're like me, I know what the turnoff is in the group experience; too many people just looking for a one night stand. You can improve your chances of avoiding that mess by following a few simple suggestions. Avoid really low cost cruises which tend to attract everyone in the world who wants to party. Avoid special occasion cruises like spring break, Halloween, Mardi Gras, New Years, etc as they also attract everyone in the world who wants to party. Intimate size groups are generally less invasive than groups in the hundreds. It all depends on whether you want to enjoy nature and personal interaction or Carlos n' Charlies. Then again, you could just go solo and do the footwork and hope for the best. In any case, good luck.

neverbeen July 16th, 2004 05:41 PM

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I've never been on a cruise period. I'm 43 and thinking of a singles cruise so these tips are helpful. I may be looking to book one around Dec. or Jan. Any more tips would be appreciated. Also, any one who is thinking of cruising at the same time should feel free to drop me a line with any suggestions. Thanks.

LisaV July 16th, 2004 09:46 PM

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Went solo last October and a will be doing it again in January.
I went because family and friends wouldn't make the commitment. I sat a table with a group of 4 friends (all male), and a woman and her older teenage daughter. We ended up spending our evenings together, mostly in the casino where I met many other very friendly folks! I also enjoyed the fact that I could do what I wanted during the day and not have to worry about others.
We'll see what happens in January, I'm guessing it will be just as fun and just as easy to meet people!
I would tell recommend to anyone who is considering traveling solo to do so!

Lisa V.

flmermaid July 16th, 2004 10:06 PM

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I have cruised by myself completely oand actually meet a co worker on board accidentally as I was just looking at the ship photographer's pictures!!
I am a single mom who has raised my 2 boys by myself for the last 12 years. This cruise alone was Heaven!!!!!!!!!! It was NCL cruise to the Western Carribean last October...cost me $500.00 for the whole week and I ended up with a window room!!
I highly reccommend it. I enjoyed dining alone or eating with my friends one in a great while...........PEACE

flmermaid July 16th, 2004 10:15 PM

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BTW, I am cruising again with 2 fellow teachers on Costa out of Ft. Lauderdale on 3/27/05. GREAT looking cruise and when school starts back I will be "passing the word" to other singles at work!! Email me back if you 'd like more info>>>>who is that single male teacher in FL??

DJB July 21st, 2004 03:35 PM

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Thanks for all the input ...

Tom M July 26th, 2004 10:20 PM

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Let me reiterate what other singles on these postings have already stated.....Yes, you will meet more singles in late seating simply because there are far more families with children in first seating; kids shouldn't be staying up as late as we adults. Another piece of advice already mentioned: check out the photo board, and keep your eyes open everywhere you roam. As for any more useful advise all the replys to your questions have beem answered in a fairly thorough way by singles who have been there and done that myself included. I can count 26 cruises all told in a single capacity some of them organized, most of them on my own or with a friend.......TM

scherrm July 27th, 2004 11:10 PM

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I'm a single woman - 37 years old. I cruised single (solo) for the first time on the Carnival Legend on it's maiden Caribbean voyage out of Ft. Lauderdale in Nov. 2002. I had cruised with a friend on Carnival previously, so I knew I'd enjoy myself regardless of the single population on board.

I got a terrific rate about 2 weeks prior to the sailing date through Actually Carnival was having a sale and there was no singles supplement! I doubt that I'll lever get such a great deal again - less than $400 for an 8 day cruise!!! What good luck!

I ended up in a wonderful outside cabin - all to myself (even though it was an obstructed view, it was an upgrade to a higher deck and outside)! That was the next lucky thing on the cruise.

I was seated for the late seating with a table of singles, all traveling alone. It was a table for 6 with 3 men and 3 women - we ranged in age from about 35 to about 65! I have to say that the dinners were one of the highlights of the trip. 2 of the guys were big gamblers, so the casino kept sending over bottles of wine for them each night. I don't know if it was the wine they shared or what, but we all got along very well and laughed and talked together, then went as a group to the shows afterwards. That singles table was another lucky thing about the cruise. On my previous cruises, I traveled with a single girlfriend and never got such a good singles seating arrangement.

I sailed again with my friend on the Carnival Paradise this past October. Again I was seated at a table with all singles. This time it was a table for 8 with 2 men and 6 women. The group wasn't quite as fun as the people from the Legend, but we enjoyed each other's company each evening.

I just got back on Sunday from a cruise to Bermuda on NCL's Norwegian Crown. Sadly I met no singles - no one even showed up at the singles party. This time I was traveling with my parents - so it was a pretty mellow, low-key trip for me. Also, NCL's freestyle dining program is not really conducive to getting to know a group of tablemates, since you're never at the same table twice during the cruise. I have to highly recommend Bermuda though!!! What a beautiful island!

I'll be back with NCL in December on the Pride of Aloha. I booked that cruise through - found it on Pat's singles cruise calendar. There will be a singles group on that cruise, so my fingers are crossed that the group will be fun and that whoever I get matched up with to share a cabin with will be tolerable. I can't wait to see Hawaii though!

I don't see why you can't call Carnival to inquire about the possible single seating arrangements. Pat is right about asking the Maitre D' as well. Also, every cruise I've been on (8 all together) has had at least one activity for singles at the beginning of the voyage. I recommend that you go and hang around long enough to see the other single arrive. Some of the Carnival singles activities have been pretty fun.

Have fun on the Glory!

CB July 27th, 2004 11:24 PM

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Thanks for asking these questions. I have cruised three times single and I'm scheduled to go Sept 11/04, Ncl Wind (Hawaii) and Nov 9/04, Carnival Spirit (Mexican Riviera). I thought I had all the answers but I learned a lot from these posts.

The only thing I would add is that it wopuld really be nice if we could get more people to use this and similar boards. We (Singles) are definitely becoming a major "force".

Aloha All

babybear August 23rd, 2004 02:21 PM

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I have cruised on several different lines, and I prefer Princess. Despite the fact that I think they are not very good at putting singles together, and I despite the fact that I am very shy, I still have always found other solo travelers. What worked for me was reading the roll call boards on cruisemates (and, dare I mention it -, prior to going on the cruise - if there is none for the trip you are planning, start one. You'll see many of the folks are couples, but you can always put a note out there for others traveling solo or as friends. I was able to book an independent tour in Florence with two solo passengers going on the same ship prior to even leaving home. I had dinner with them a few times as well. I also went to the singles meeting the first or second night - sometimes, only one or two people show up, but still a good way to connect. Also, you can introduce yourself to the cruise director or one of his/her assistants who are less busy - they are always running around on the ship and are very friendly. Ask them to connect you to other solo travelers they meet (have a card with your name/and room extension handy). I have a hard time going to the disco - it's just not my thing - but I have met other single passengers in the Jacuzzis. The dinner seating ideas I have read here also sound good. I'll keep that one in mind for my next trip.

Linda H August 24th, 2004 04:03 PM

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How do you find the "roll call boards" on cruisemates?


gigi August 28th, 2004 07:02 AM

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i have been on 3 cruises single. One time with Singleworld. I just choose a large table on the website, and then you can ask for a change of your table after checking it out after the first meal. You can also try calling or e-mailing.

Pat Hagan Singles Editor August 30th, 2004 09:47 PM

Re: Single cruising as in truly single
Regarding being seated with singles, check with the maitre d' as soon as you board.
Then go to the singles party the first night (assuming they have one).

One can never be sure how many singles are onboard if it is not an organized singles cruise; however, singles are usually found on Carnival's short cruises.

CB August 31st, 2004 01:39 AM

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You and others could try the Carnival Spirit to the Mexican Riviera on Nov 9. I'm booked and others are considering it. Let me know if you decide.


felway17 August 31st, 2004 07:16 AM

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Well only a few days left for me... 4 days 9 hours..... but only 3 days for Frances to get the heck out of my way... otherwise we will do battle

ps.... DJB is really me... when I first started using cruisemates. Then I registered, and changed my name ... There was another poster with too close of a name.

Thanks all

Patricia September 4th, 2004 05:22 PM

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Just came back from the navigator and was cruising solo!! ( yes i'm truly single) and i had the time of my life!! I found allot of other singel people on the ship and had a great time..If you whant to know more just ask!


felway17 September 4th, 2004 05:48 PM

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So what did you do to meet people? just started a fiendly chat? or was there a singles party?

LJR213 September 5th, 2004 02:48 PM

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Although someone I work with will also be on the same ship (so I will know someone aboard to begin with). I will be sailing single next Sept. 2005. I've cruised before my most recent was a cruise this past May for a friend's wedding (they got married on St. Thomas). I was searching for another cruise for next year and decided I wasn't going to wait for everyone to hem and haw to decide if they wanted to go with me. If someone wants to join me thats fine but I wasn't waiting. Besides there is so much to do and so many people (single or not) on the ship that you are never really alone anyway. I barely saw the people I was with on the last one. So I say go for it. Life is too short not to do what you what and have fun. ENJOY

Patricia September 8th, 2004 01:55 PM

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I really didnt have to do anything...Everybody was really friendly and befor I knew it I was talking to a buch of people at the pool bar an hour after I got on board! And then in the disco I met even more people and hung out with them..I was never alone! (unless I wanted to be) Sorry for my spelling but I am from holland and i speek english better than i can spel it haha LOL Just have fun and enjoy the rest will happen on it's own!

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