Since my April cruise, I have been dying to post this. My sister and I were seated at a table for six with two very nice "mature" couples. One of our tablemates brought up "squat toilets" that she and her husband endured when traveling in the orient. AT DINNER! Yes, SO very appetizing. Then at breakfast one morning our random tablemates were talking (graphically) about the slaughtering of geese that had occurred on and near their property where they live. Yes, MORE appetizing conversation. Maybe it was just me (okay, I know it wasn't, because my sister was disgusted too), but is it THAT hard to come up with pleasnt things to talk about at the table, like how you are enjoying your cruise, what you have done that is fun, complimenting the crew, the food? Am I being unrealistic? Yes, one can always attempt to sway the conversation to more pleasant topics, but wow, I would NEVER have thought to bring up such topics at the dining room table.
Sovereign of the Seas - 12/22/02
Sovereign of the Seas - 04/27/03
Sovereign of the Seas - 09/04/03 *and* 09/07/03
I experienced a 'Get me outa here' conversation once.
We were 8 people gathered for pre-dinner drinks when one person brought up the subject of 'What's the best way to kill a lobster?'. One of the guests - an elderly lady - was clearly going green at the thought. Then as this was noticed, people 'clammed up', at which point there was a pregnant silence as everybody fought (you could see the cogs whirring) to bring up a new subject. Too late - the lobster was back 'on topic' and shortly afterwards the party broke up.
Now, I'm going to have make sure I have a 'life belt' with me for those occasions that the conversation goes wrong.
that is definatley not appropriate dinner "talk" Perhaps the correct response might be" your story is facinating,i'd love to hear all about it after dinner, but not to offend, that's kind of graphic and people are trying to eat"
Thomas!! Tsk tsk! I was sitting here eating my lunch while reading this topic. Bad enough with the squat jumps and the most unfortunate crustaceans, but Mark's dentures?!? Please!
<<wink>> Have a nice afternoon.
on our last cruise this one guy at our table (married w/kids about 35) informed us everynight about his constipation, and when he was finally able to "relieve" himself. He thought he was being funny,,,,,,,,,,I thought he was a low life!
Carnival Fantasy - 9/28/1997
Celebrity Mercury - Thanksgiving Week 1998
Royal Caribbean - Enchantment of the Seas - 9/29/2001
Royal Caribbean - Navigator of the Seas - 9/27/2003
When traveling on the Explorer of the Seas last year my wife and I were seated with a rather loud couple from Long Island N.Y. who had to let everyone know they had a large house and plenty of money. My wife and I are pretty private and don't talk much about our business. It did not take long for them to figure out that there would be little talk between us and changed tables. I always believe one should not talk about certin topics with stranger so you don't hurt or affend someone. Politics and money are the top two, but I think some people just don't get it.
This wasn't at the dinner table, but in my opinion, just as bad!!!
A couple years ago I was on the Explorer with my husband, sister, and parents. While we were waiting to get off the ship that last morning, my mom asked a lady sitting by herself if she minded if my mom sat in the chair next to her. The lady said - and I quote "Oh, that would be fine. My husband was sitting there but he won't be back for a while - he has diarhea!!"
Needless to say, my mom sat somewhere else!!!!!!!!!
I learned growing up that there are a few things you donīt talk about at the dinner table with company: politics, religion, sex, your lack/abundance of wealth and health issues. Avoiding those themes makes for a pleasant (sometimes very boring ) dinner.
The art of small talk isnīt easy. Thereīs also nothing worse than sitting at a table and everyone having absolutely nothing to say!
I'm pretty easy going so none of the above posts would have really bothered me too much, I would only object to racist or small minded remarks about other people. The bathroom stuff I 'd probaly laugh and say cut that out its's too gross, the lobster comment ,well we go crabiing so we'd get right into that one, the money and riches one, we'd laugh at them behind their backs and think they were amusing, Cruising is about meeting all sorts and to us it's part of the fun!! Think of it like an anthropology experiment! ( by the way , I would have sat down in that chair!! )
Our first cruise was for our honeymoon. Our tablemates were all on their honeymoon, too. We spent the first two nights talking about the weddings, then started to get to know one another. It was definately an exercise in assuming too much.
One couple was from Iowa and very conservative. They assumed that DH and I would agree with their heterosexist attitudes, which we very much are not.
When we ran into another couple in port, the wife made some anti-Semetic comments regarding the salespeople on the island. Little did she know that she was talking to a Jew.
Sigh. I've just got one of those non-threatening faces. People always ask me for directions. Even while on vacation in Toronto or NYC, people ask me where to go. Strangers always assume I agree with them on issues and share their attitudes.
What's a "heterosexist attidtude" ? Gosh I couldn't even spell that without going back to check! lol
As to people making racist or bigoted comments your silence is not a good idea, remember "all it takes for evils to flourish is for good men to to nothing" It someone says something racist etc, in front of me I'd let them know that I don't agree, it's not picking a fight it's standing up for what is right.
On our last HAL cruise at a table for 10, one gentleman asked to be excused from the table and said would we mind if he went out and smoked.He was promptly met with a reply from another gentlemen "would you mind if i went out and passed wind".The other guests did not know where to turn, some were embarrassed ,and some left immediately with laughter.A strange experince indeed.
There is no doubt that cruising brings about all sorts of experiences from all sorts of people.