[quote="Sailing gal"]I have to borrow one from Banker's post to answer what I thought was rude. I will more specifically call it snippy.
I also got a rude (I've been around people long enough to read into choice of words, facial expression, and body language to know what rude is)......
Karen: You mean you were brought to near tears and we have 5 pages of postings because a crew member:
MAY have LOOKED at you in a rude manner? (what does that mean?!)
Someone may have had rude BODY LANGUAGE? (Did she bump you, throw your tip back? Turn her back on you when you tried to talk to her?)
YOU READ into someones choice of words 'rudeness'? ( Did she say that you were thoughtless or embarrass you in front of your child by raising her voice?)
I thought all this time (in the back of my mind) that maybe the caregiver had in some manner been genuinely rude.
1. Discourteous in manner or action. (Would someone else seeing the incident have felt the same as you?)
2. Offensive to accepted standards of decency. (Was she so offensive as to accepted standards of decency that it brought you to tears?)
3. Showing lack of skill, training or education (although you never said that she did not care for your child in a proper manner, or that she presented herself as uneducated.)
People can really be very discourteous...but the incident is usually something very specific! e.g.:
They threw the money at me when I asked for a refund.
The Hotel clerk turned his back on me and walked away when I was speaking to him.
She raised her voice and called me a foul name in front of my child because I asked where the rest of our fast food order was.
I was next in line and the sales clerk ignored me and waited on someone else....then someone else...before waiting on me.
All the above happen to me. I view the incidents as being typical of rudeness, but not just because they happen to me, but because they fit the very defination of rudeness.
I can really see now how this whole incident was really no big deal, and there has been a lot of hoop la for nothing, and just maybe that's what you have been trying to say all along.