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Old June 27th, 2006, 09:08 AM
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I didn't know where else to post this...
A recent friend of mine who she and her hubby are catholic ......recently just in a kind of joking matter said, "boy you two sure are gluttons for those cruises!" I said, no, we just love to travel/cruise! It kind of bugged me but I didnt say anything. Then, she visited our website and again...when she signed our guest book...she wrote it ther too...."you guys sure are gluttons for those cruises!" My husband saw it that time, and it ticked him off too and me more.
If she wants to voice her opinion to me thats one matter, but to again type it on your website?? But why would a "friend" do that!

Every time I call them or they call me they are asking me...so how much did you pay for that cruise again? it irritates the crap out of me! And, its not like they dont travel. I've known them for only 2 years...they have 3 littleones and both her and her husband take separate vacations....BIG vacations. They fly to europe at least once a year. She goes for a week by herself, then he goes for 2 weeks by his self.

uuugh! my heart is racing writting this....Thanks for letting me get this off my chest!
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let it go, don't feed into it. If you let it go, it will stop because they aren't getting a reaction out of you, almost sounds like they are "baiting" you with the "sin" card. Its not worth your time or effort, almost sounds like they are jealous of you!
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You could just say "yes " we enjoy cruising as much as you enjoy your vacation to Europe.
We get to see parts of the world from the comfort of a ship.

When ask how much just say nothing and change the subject or just say we got a good price and leave it at that!

We met a couple on our last cruise they we from the same Province as us within 5 minutes she was asking how much we paid......rude! rude! rude!!
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Old June 27th, 2006, 10:32 AM
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I'm with Lisa on this. Sounds like sour grapes to me. You have a great time so let it go. I bet even with thier separate vacations... you end up having a better time.
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Old June 27th, 2006, 10:44 AM
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Just say: Yes: We love cruising and vacationing "together".

I never condemn anyone for not enjoying or "getting" cruising. I believe people should try it before condemning it but cruising is not for everyone and us who are addicted shouldn't condemn those who aren't. I actually find land travel has some advantages over cruising. Who said that?

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Old June 27th, 2006, 10:50 AM
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#1 Get new friends, there are plenty out there. My family will be friends with you if you can't find any. I have dropped many friends in my day from reasons like yours and others and have always replaced them with better people.
#2 my guess each is jeolous that your family vacations together as a unit (as a family should) their insecurities are with each other not you but they are taking it out on you. Sounds to me while each is away in europe they are getting a little side action if you know what I mean!

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I agree with the others, but let me say this.
As a Catholic, please do not judge what your friends are doing to you as a "Catholic" thing.
Being a glutton is to over-indulge in a manner that is wasteful, shows no regard for others, and is a form of idol worship. If your going on a cruise consumes you to the point that you focus solely on your pleasure and do not have regard for your fellow man, it may be a sin.
Yes, I over eat on a cruise. Yes I think about cruising on a daily basis, but I do not put cruising before my work, my family or my God.
Jealousy is also a sin and I believe that is what your friends are, jealous.

Now, time for the collection, the sermon is over.
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Old June 27th, 2006, 01:16 PM
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Just tell them to kiss your "buffet" butt!!
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Dang! Thanks for all your words of wisdom. I have been known to let things eat away at me, and tend not to let things go. Why did she have to play the sin card? Jealousy...ok...Gotta let it go! let it go....maybe I need to start yoga?

She really is a nice gal, but the more I get to know her, the more she seems so critical of me and my family.

I think land travel is great...if you are up to the flying part. I'm still trying
to build my faith back into flying. (I have to so I can cruise alaska and hawii!!)

To the Rev-- I didn't mean to sound judgemental about catholics...I have recently become very interested in that faith..doing a little reading. But when she catagorized me and my family as gluttons....it made me feel sick and most inadequate in my mothering and as a wife. But then I thought, surely there are catholics that cruise! And here you are! So no burning firey afterlife for cruising huh?

Anyway, I can rest a little easier now ...gotta find more friends!
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1 you enjoyed cruise with your husband
2 its none of there business on how much you paid for the cruise thats rude
3 there jealous because you do things as couple
4 you don't need friends like that
enjoy your cruise and the with them
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Old June 28th, 2006, 09:13 AM
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Friends,not the true ones but ones that are more on the aquaintance side (which sounds like they are), just like a neighborhood, once gone bad don't usually get better. get new friends!!!! Dump them! I have never regretted the people I have dumped in my life! It always turned out for the better. You may get them to stop their comments but can never stop what they are thinking!
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I'm back and into catch up. This was a personal/individual/relationship thing and their hang up is simple. It beats their butts to see you cruise.

But can I ask why the poster felt it necessary to say the people are "catholic". Have I missed something here in translation, if not what the hell has their "religion" got to do with anything,,,,,,slippy slope if CM are allowing that. You know what I mean.
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Old June 28th, 2006, 03:18 PM
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Davidbgood.....

If you read my reply to the rev......nevermind that.

I appologize for even posting a religion ....I'm not here to bash any ones religion. Why did I put that there??!! It doesn't even matter what religion she or anyone is.

PLEASE can you just delete this whole thread mr board master......
im goin to hell for sure
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Old June 28th, 2006, 03:26 PM
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Would that be IN the handbasket or......... ? hehehehe joking
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To truly be a glutton it would have to be in a breadbasket!
Kimbo, I certainly did not take offense to the catholic thing.
In the future however please post more quietly, we don't to wake David up. He will go on another tear.
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I'm Catholic and I cruise.

Maybe this "friend" just learned the word and is trying to use it in as many sentences as she can?
Maybe she missed the part in the Bible that speaks about not judging?
Maybe she can't find anything to talk about, she is terribly boring, so she just fishes for a topic you are interested in?

I agree with some of the other posters. Find another friend.
Someone who won't make snide remarks about cruising!
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I just looked up glutton and ,well, definition number one is about eating (arf,arf) but check this out-

2. A person with a great desire or capacity for something.

Now that description sounds ok if she meant it in that way. If that is the case than I am a glutton for cruising.

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Good point on the definition!
But even when it is used in that way [great capacity for something] it tends to be negative -- as in "glutton for punishment."

Even the word itself sounds kind of harsh!
I would hate to say I am a glutton for chocolate -- and cruising!
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I've got an idea. Let us take the heat for you by suggesting to your friends that they visit this website to find this conversation?? Then sit back and wait for a response. That would be great.
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I've got an idea. Let us take the heat for you by suggesting to your friends that they visit this website to find this conversation?? Then sit back and wait for a response. That would be great.
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my husband also suggested fruitcake that she is testing a new word. She had told me before we cruised this last cruise, she could never cruise and watch all that gluttony!

they are very frugal in many areas.....live life with the least excess (maybe to avoid gluttony?) ... no pc, no internet. (or maybe to pay for thier separate vacations?) ...or maybe its part of thier religious belief..WHICH IS OKAY WITH ME....anyway that last idea of getting her on here wont happen.

my daughter starts prek in august so, will be meeting more people, making some more friends
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Kimbo, I don't think it's part of their religion. Catholics don't take a vow of poverty, unless they're nuns.

Maybe she just has an aversion to food, as evidenced by her early comment on not wanting to "watch all that gluttony."
She probably has a skewed vision of what a cruise is all about.

I remember my first cruise, back when my daughters were young. We were in a crowd waiting in front of the dining room. As the doors opened, someone yelled "Strap on the feedbags."
I thought that was terrible!
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I know these kinds of frugal people who question your spending. There the kind that think there spending is right and yours is wrong.


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for your next cruise, do some research and find an orphanage to donate a few school supplies or food items to and spend the afternoon doing some "humanitarian work". that way, when they ask you how much you spent, you can tell them "money doesn't matter when you're brightening the day of someone less fortunate". perhaps they'll get past the whole gluttony thing. (yes, i met people who cruised on a whim and wasted thousands in the casinos and it's great that they had the money to do that. me, it took me 2 1/2 years to save for that cruise and i bet i had just as much fun, if not more than my "rich" counterparts.)

ok, yes, i ate about 83 gallons of soft serve on my last cruise so i'll admit the gluttony there....
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Kimbo - just tell tham how great the sex is when you two cruise - then ask them if they would rather see the videos or photos - that should shut them right up.

So I'm a little warped lol.

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AAAK! I was ready to see this thread leave ....But Jennifer had to bump it up! No really its ok. gluttony and sex does that go hand in hand?
so much so that i got pregnant on this last one....but miscarried (TMIsorry) (pay back from god for being a glutton??)

chosen, thats a neat idea about the humanitarian work...just don't know if i want to do that while i'm on vacation. we do sponsor a child, does that balance things out??

I met with her (the glutton accuser) for the first time since our last cruise the other day. Oddly enough she did not make any snide remarks about our trip. Just asked if we enjoyed ourselves...I said, why yes we did...and left it at that. Then it was off to the movies with our kids. Maybe she got a hint since i hadn't talked to her in about 3weeks?

anyway, glutton or not, I'm ready to plan my next cruise in april!
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so much so that i got pregnant on this last one....but miscarried (TMIsorry) (pay back from god for being a glutton??)
I'm so sorry to hear this. No, I don't think it's payback for anything. IMO, (having been there and done that more than once) it's Mother Nature's (and G'd's) way of saying "This is NOT going to be good so I'll save you and the baby from suffering".

I'm glad to hear that your friend "got the hint"!
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Are you sure they're "friends"? Certianly doesn't sound like "friendly" behavior to me!
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