Re: Recovering alcoholic on cruise and the waiters keep serv
Originally Posted by bluebonnets
My husband is a recovering alcoholic and a gastric bypass patient. On our last cruise the waiters continued to ply my husband with drinks after they had been told he was in recovery. As a gastric bypass patient my husband gets roaring drunk on as little as 3 drinks and becomes almost uncontrollable and belligerent. We are scheduled to go on a rather lengthy cruise and my husband has been sober for the past 10 days. How can I keep the bartenders from serving him? Once he starts drinking he hands out big tips to keep the drinks flowing. I am tired of this and do not want the waiters on our upcoming cruise to sabotage his recovery.
No. I thank you. Like so many subjects on web board threads it is so easy to sit on the side lines and just 'chip in' comment for the sake of posting, without thinking about it or the subject or the personal reality,,mmm
But on this one, you got it.
Oh and that’s why the subject went quiet,,,,,you nailed it, told the truth and with that 'some' will back off.
My respect to you for what you have been through in your life to come out the other side, words like that are worth listening too and TOTALLY relevant to the subject.
Advice to others living and reading this situation, read the posts from people that have been there and not the glib and throw away things some others have to say on the subject, especially with something so serious.
But it would be good for others to see 'bluebonnets' response and how you reacted to the advice given, and how your vacation turned out.
If not the message or cry for help is a bit like crying wolf. When asking for help, that takes on a certain responsibility if the answers and responses suit or don’t suit agenda..
Happy to give it with no reaction, but as a fellow human that you drew into your world, I would expect the decency to react right or wrong to opinion given.
If not it just looks like someone made up a subject and then ‘disappeared’.
This will sound harsh ...... but git a grip. Both you and your husband are in denial ........... 10 days sober is hardly the time to be going on a cruise, and you - thinking you can contol it, aren't dealing with reality. Have you ever been to Alanon? You might give it a shot. Your husband has a choice whether he drinks or not, and it sounds like he prefers drinking to sobriety.