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Old August 12th, 2014, 04:49 PM
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You know sitting at a table for two gives you a little privacy but when you have
tables for two lined up side by side you're not going to get much privacy in your conversation. What really bugged me was that i was having a conversation about the ship's tour that I had been on and I was describing how the various departments had made little presentations. The sanitation department made there presentation and I was telling my tablemate about their display. I described the boxes of rat poison and other products they use and then I asked my tablemate the question, "and you know what really impressed me." From the next table the fellow yells, "the rat trap."

Not a big deal but you do expect a little privacy in your conversation.
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The issue is not the lack of privacy, but the lack of good manners from the responder..lol
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Old August 15th, 2014, 08:13 AM
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The issue is not the lack of privacy, but the lack of good manners from the responder..lol
This eavesdropper who I did not know and I did not know was on the tour where the giant rat traps were displayed; happened to notice the same thing I did and then before I could tell my luncheon companion about the rat traps, the eavesdropper steals my punch line by yelling out, "rat trap." Eavesdropping is one thing but stealing a punchline for a good story is unforgivable.
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Maybe your social skills and humor would be appreciated more on a larger table, say an 8 or 10 then you would have that captive audience to impress. Honestly, looking to have a private conversation in a table for two that are three feet apart, no chance. Of course others ears hear greater than that distance, as they are designed that way. No doubt more than them heard the conversation and given it was a common ship trip, they just happenned to get in first, bad luck.

Maybe the lines and catering for unsocial people should consider partitioning the tables for two with sound proof glass all round so that they can be totally insular in their experience of the common dining room
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Talking about rats and rat poison is such an interesting lunch conversation.


I wish that I had been there to eavesdrop.


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Old February 11th, 2015, 01:48 PM
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The issue is not the lack of privacy, but the lack of good manners from the responder..lol

Unless I misinterpret what you have written you are saying I lack good manners. If this is not what you meant by your comment, please clarify what you mean.

On the other hand if you are saying relating a story about an eavesdropper jumping into a private conversation is a lack of good manners in a Forum about Travel Gripes, i totally reject your premise and your comment.

I have to ask: "Do you consider a total stranger jumping into a private conversation good manners?" Please explain, I want to understand what you feel is a cruisemate's right to privacy in a conversation. Does it matter whether the person is at an adjacent table two feet away or poolside twenty feet awafrom where the conversation was taking place? Do you think that intruding on a conversation would be good manners no matter what you heard? Have you checked Emily Post's guidelines on good manners and interrupting another person while they are having conversation?

Furthermore, what if the whispered conversation between a person and their significant other about intimate matters? Do you feel that you have the right to jump into a private conversation just because you were eavesdropping and you think you have something to add.

Please explain where there is a lack of good manners on my part which you assert as follows. "The issue is not the lack of privacy, but the lack of good manners from the responder..lol."

I would also like to expand here upon my feelings about conversations at a table with other cruisemates. Subjects and conversation are wide open to what the cruisemates want to talk about whether it is sex, politics, race relations, world problems, health problems, casino game strategy, hideaways on the ship, food reviews, jerks to avoid, military stories, cruises that cruisemates have taken, fine wine, stupid politicians, pets (exception would be if pet recently died), religion, marital problems, significant others, as far as I am concerned anything goes with no limitations other that the conversation should be in good taste since we are at a meal. If I choose not to participate, I will abstain from the conversation.

Furthermore, I have one rule about conversations, I do not ruin a good story being told by a cruisemate at a group table I even though I know the punchline. It's like telling people the end of a movie so that you spoil it for them.

By the way I thought that experience of finding out that the rat trap story along with other annedotes about the ship department tour was interesting and my tablemate enjoyed it as we had lunch without the eavesdropper's comments. I also felt that the rat trap story was part of the ship's housekeeping story that doesn't get told along with cleaning toilets, and other nasty tasks. The rat catchers must have been doing a good job because I did not see any rats of the rodent variety on board the ship during the cruise nor have i seen any on other cruises. The one exception was on a Disney ship. I did enjoy seeing Mickey and Minnie.
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I have to admit Bonnie (hope you dont mind me calling you that) it's easier. But when I wrote my response last night, I thought actually that he does have a good point. The jumping into someone elses conversation especially on one that is "one on one and private", is actually the height of ignorance in any social environment for others to then jump in from the side. Personally, I would have been so angry if I had experienced that, that it would have led to words with anyone that did it, one to one just to make them aware of what an arse they had been, and dont ever do it again to me

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