While cruising in March of 2003, my husband's grandfather died. He was in his 90's and it was not a surprise. My wonderful in-law's opted NOT to get in touch with us. They decided our one family vacation of the year with all four of us should go on as planned. Although my husband is still upset about the timing, he felt his parents made the right decision by not calling. There was nothing we could do at that point, and everyone understood why we weren't at the funeral. Even if we weren't cruising it would have been some work with us living in Florida and the funeral in Chicago.