You think the Cruise Lines dont "Get it". You want quiet music by the pool, gracious hosts, and no art auctions. I am absolutely in complete agreement with you. Thats why I travel on cruise lines that DO have quiet pool areas, gracious hosts and no Art Auctions.
Have you considered trying that yourself?
Mass Market cruise lines stay in business because they give the mass market public what they want. If they didnt do this, they would be very quickly bankrupt. The mass market public gets their cheap cruise, their party atmosphere by the pools, their Cruise Staff acting like K-Mart shopping hosts, and plenty of Art Auctions.
If you want to go the cheap way and run with the dogs, you will have to suffer the fleas as well.