It had to said Mary, but as you can see, it sounds like some people have a bad taste in their mouth from previous relationships or the lack thereof. I didn't say anything about hooking up, but I did include the feeling of belonging and unless I'm mistaken, that's the same thing as not feeling totally alone. We all go on single's cruises because we don't want to cruise alone. However, since hooking up was brought up, I think that's a wonderful natural thing and anyone who doesn't feel that way is missing the boat, in my opinion. When I no longer appreciate the opposite sex, it's time for me to check out. Everyone needs and wants love in one form or another, even if it's only friendship. No man is an island.