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Trip June 14th, 2011 01:21 PM

So, how did your cruise work out?
 
We have a great community of people looking for Cruisemates, and, over the years it has gotten to be quite a popular to find companions.

I was wondering how you fared if you made a connection here, and, also, if you might share some tips you learned along the way, to make new posters aware of the process...thanks

aspengal June 14th, 2011 05:33 PM

Trip, several months ago I posted on the subject of a female cruising platonicaly with male. Received many responses, about half in Email form. All interesting, none threatening in any way. Main thread came down to communication, information by the parties. Bring it up again if you wish.

ruthlessboss June 14th, 2011 07:14 PM

Not exactly a tip, as I've not pursued a roommie, but not closed to the idea. I make it a point to look at the section and I find it crazy to see people dig deep into the archives, don't look at the posting date, yet answer the post like it was current.
Some postings are nice and clear as to what they are seeking, others just say nothing.
Then, there is the one time poster, never to be heard from again, nor even bothered to get on line again. This happened to me once. I'm the nosey type, go to the stats area to find things out, how many posts and what the posts say.
For those who have not discovered this section, just click on the user name, it's interesting.;)
Anyway, for those who have made a connection, it would be polite to let us know with a follow up post. Us inquiring minds want to know.:cry:

cruisinbill June 14th, 2011 08:21 PM

6/14 It's Cruisinbill AGAIN on the same evening. Saw you live in Fl as I do, Vero Beach on the east coast. My other message inquired whether you are booked on the same cruise I am - eastern Carib, NCL, Oct 8th. I"m the Meet and Greet coordinator . I'm a retired senior single and have been on 12 cruises. Have share 4 previous cruises with compatible ladies. Never met them in person until boarding the ship. Exchanged pictures,many e-mails and some phone calls. I'm replying because I saw your post on the cruise I've booked. Cruisinbill billsimon2@juno.com

ruthlessboss June 14th, 2011 09:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cruisinbill (Post 1376268)
6/14 It's Cruisinbill AGAIN on the same evening. Saw you live in Fl as I do, Vero Beach on the east coast. My other message inquired whether you are booked on the same cruise I am - eastern Carib, NCL, Oct 8th. I"m the Meet and Greet coordinator . I'm a retired senior single and have been on 12 cruises. Have share 4 previous cruises with compatible ladies. Never met them in person until boarding the ship. Exchanged pictures,many e-mails and some phone calls. I'm replying because I saw your post on the cruise I've booked. Cruisinbill billsimon2@juno.com

I'm having brain freeze! Don't remember. Booked solo so far for Ecstasy in Nov, the one to Key West. Some great prices!! (at least when I booked). Toyed with SUN, but it hasn't grabbed me yet.

cruisegirl7 June 24th, 2011 01:41 PM

hi there... i am having a very difficult time locating a cruise mate on your site....the postings are not in chronological order...and are all mixed in with bloggers, silly stories etc. I think you should have a category that is strictly for cabin mate searches....with categories of, an example... transatlantic.... mediterranean.....carribean, etc. I find that the site is more of bloggers, questions, sharing stories.. and not really targeting toward single cruissers who want to share cabins???? just a suggesiton! :-)

EasyHG June 24th, 2011 05:17 PM

I've never met a match here to my surprise despite this being a cruise website. I did meet cruisemates on other dating sites where I advertised for a cruisemate. The people I met werre cruise veterans compared to me who is newbie. (This was a regular dating site, not for cruisemates)

I got along great with my cruisemates. I'm neat, polite and considerate and so were the people I met. So no problems. Sometimes we did things together and sometimes we gave each other space. I would say 80% of the tme we hung out. I'm a SBM both my roomies were SWF's. Not what I expected for roommates, but saving money is saving money.

My advice would be to talk on the phone and get to know each other. Both times the people I met were from another state and the first time we physically met was the first day of the cruise. We exchanged pics and spoke on the phone 6 or 7 times over a 3 week period getting to know one another. That made things so much easier.

Trip June 24th, 2011 06:41 PM

Cruisegirl, you might want to drop the editor a note with your suggestions.
You never know....

snorkeler June 27th, 2011 12:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cruisegirl7 (Post 1377949)
hi there... i am having a very difficult time locating a cruise mate on your site....the postings are not in chronological order...and are all mixed in with bloggers, silly stories etc. I think you should have a category that is strictly for cabin mate searches....with categories of, an example... transatlantic.... mediterranean.....carribean, etc. I find that the site is more of bloggers, questions, sharing stories.. and not really targeting toward single cruissers who want to share cabins???? just a suggesiton! :-)

I am a happily married WF and would love to book a 7-night Caribbean cruise this summer. I agree it's kinda hard to maneuver through, but thought I'd just throw that out there. If you're interested I'll send more info. I take it that you are a female, right?

Quote:

Originally Posted by EasyHG (Post 1377988)
I've never met a match here to my surprise despite this being a cruise website. I did meet cruisemates on other dating sites where I advertised for a cruisemate. The people I met werre cruise veterans compared to me who is newbie. (This was a regular dating site, not for cruisemates)


My advice would be to talk on the phone and get to know each other. Both times the people I met were from another state and the first time we physically met was the first day of the cruise. We exchanged pics and spoke on the phone 6 or 7 times over a 3 week period getting to know one another. That made things so much easier.

Were the websites you used all DATING websites or is there another option out there for people just looking for someone to share a cabin with?

EasyHG June 28th, 2011 08:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by snorkeler (Post 1378426)
Were the websites you used all DATING websites or is there another option out there for people just looking for someone to share a cabin with?

A co-worker told me about this site. I did an ad and got two replies. Neither worked out due to scheduling. That same person told me to do an ad on craigslist and match.com Craigs worked for me. We were both from different states. I went on two cruises with the person. But we have lost contact now.

snorkeler June 28th, 2011 11:59 AM

Where did you list it on CL? I've used it quite a bit for selling and buying things, but never for meeting people. If I don't see salt water soon (other than that from my aquarium, I'm gonna go NUTS!!!!! Anyway, did you list it under something like WOMEN SEEKING WOMEN? That seems a bit dicey to me. It sounds like yours turned out ok, and I'm willing to give it a try, but I need to know what category to list.

EasyHG June 28th, 2011 12:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by snorkeler (Post 1378604)
Where did you list it on CL? I've used it quite a bit for selling and buying things, but never for meeting people. If I don't see salt water soon (other than that from my aquarium, I'm gonna go NUTS!!!!! Anyway, did you list it under something like WOMEN SEEKING WOMEN? That seems a bit dicey to me. It sounds like yours turned out ok, and I'm willing to give it a try, but I need to know what category to list.

It was over a year ago, but I went to the site today to re-fresh my memory. First off, I'm a male. I believe I posted in miscellaneous romance, (male or female can reply to you). There are all kinds of different catagories to post in. Just be specific in what you are looking for and not looking for. You would probably be better off in women seeking women.

At the end of the day, it does not matter where you post, dicey, conservative, whatever.....You get your replies to your ad, you pick out who seems normal and for real. It's like a company who places and ad in the paper, most resumes you will toss in the garbage, but you are only looking for one person and that's all you need.

Being this is a cruise site I was very surprised I did not find a match here. But I like reading this board. There is a lot of useful info here.

snorkeler June 28th, 2011 12:45 PM

Thanks!
 
I really appreciate the feedback. Thanks! I'm surprised too that I haven't been able to find anything even close to a Cruise Mate. I'll keep trying though.

gbrad July 5th, 2011 03:03 PM

Experience
 
I've met a few cabin mates from this site, and some of my advice would be to:
1. Communicate fully. There are many different personalities out there.
Do you expect a 7 day date? A dinner companion? An activites/excursion partner? Let's face it, most things are more fun if you "know" someone, but if you are outgoing and personable, there will be a pool of 3K +- people that would possibly be activities partners.
My last 2 cruises with a new cabin mate was great! We did a few excursion together, as well as separate, and did some meals together. She met new friends, as did I, and would enjoy cruising with her again.
And to be as tactful as I can be here in digital form, I've not gotten physical with any of my new cabinmates except one whom told me she was my girlfriend at the time, nor would that be of concern to me.

2. Be forgiving
If you have pet peeves, mention those in the beginning of the getting to know each other stage, this is will defer the possible "OMG, you put pepper on your cottage cheese?! My cruise is RUINED!!"

3. Be polite, yet not run over
It's really a give and take. Simply state firmly what annoys you, what you personally like, etc. I've not many annoyances, and my cabinmates have had few complaints

4. Finances
With so many point systems out there now, many will want to take advantage of them if they can, be forewarned that the points won't matter if your cabinmate doesn't pay, so I would suggest each paying through the Cruise line (they're used to it)

Just my bit...
Brad

Sistersolo July 25th, 2011 01:39 PM

I think this thread ought to be "sticky", just to help out the newcomers.

I didn't discover Cruisemates until this spring; I answered a couple of posts for partners but they didn't work out. However, as a result of them two people contacted me, and one I just did a week with, very amicably. We met for the first time on the way to the ship. We're 15 years apart in age, and have some different interests and opinions, but spent more time together on the cruise than I had expected. I'd happily cruise with her again (she'll have to post her own opinion, in the reverse direction!)

I do appreciate the posts that imply whether or not I'd get along with the person. Generally it's good to expect that you're sharing the cabin, and anything else is a bonus. I did not and will not answer any that say "love to party!" or that include pictures of the person, just because I'm probably not what the poster is looking for.

gbrad August 23rd, 2011 12:37 PM

Post
 
Odd, they made it a sticky, and it seems to be being ignored now, lol

Sistersolo August 23rd, 2011 07:21 PM

I'd wondered about that; for a while I was afraid I'd poisoned it, or something.

Since my last posting here I've scheduled another cruise with a different lady, hoping it will work out as well.

gbrad August 27th, 2011 04:14 PM

yeah? Where ya going?
How's the "pre meeting" going so far?

I've kinda got an idea early on from talking to someone how we'll get along, so far was only surprised once.

Sistersolo August 27th, 2011 05:41 PM

We're going to do the transatlantic that's indicated in my signature line.

As for premeeting, we haven't. I exchanged a few e-mails with Missy before we booked the Bermuda cruise, and spoke with her on the phone twice afterwards. But neither of us as much as knew what the other looked like, before we met on the bus to NYC.

Same sort of thing with Sarah. I had posted, looking for a quick answer because of limited availability of a really good offer. I didn't get anyone in time, but several women contacted me to see if I was interested in something else. That included Sarah, who lives in Tampa where the cruise terminates. Then the TA who originally put together the group I wanted got a few more cabins, and I grabbed one, contacted her, and she signed on. We've since spoken on the phone and exchanged pictures, so at least we have an idea of who to look for, this time!

gbrad August 28th, 2011 12:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sistersolo (Post 1389571)
We're going to do the transatlantic that's indicated in my signature line.

As for premeeting, we haven't. I exchanged a few e-mails with Missy before we booked the Bermuda cruise, and spoke with her on the phone twice afterwards. But neither of us as much as knew what the other looked like, before we met on the bus to NYC.

Same sort of thing with Sarah. I had posted, looking for a quick answer because of limited availability of a really good offer. I didn't get anyone in time, but several women contacted me to see if I was interested in something else. That included Sarah, who lives in Tampa where the cruise terminates. Then the TA who originally put together the group I wanted got a few more cabins, and I grabbed one, contacted her, and she signed on. We've since spoken on the phone and exchanged pictures, so at least we have an idea of who to look for, this time!

Well I hope it all works out for both of you!
Report back after the trip
Bon Voyage!

Sistersolo August 29th, 2011 09:28 AM

Thanks, and I'll do that.

By the way, every time I see your signature line I wonder HOW you expect people to google you, with just a screen name. I'll bet I'm not the only one who wonders, too.

gbrad August 29th, 2011 03:01 PM

Yeah, it's actually a copy from my cruisecritic sig., which of course is buggystuff

Sistersolo November 21st, 2011 06:17 PM

Okay, I've now done my second cruise with a partner from Cruisemates. Again I'd call it a success. We got along fine and neither of us ever bothered the other overmuch. There were a few of her habits I found moderately annoying, but then that's true of even my own relatives; and I'm sure I occasionally bothered her, too. Nothing worth complaining about, though.

I'd cruise with her again, although we were not as compatible as my last roomie and I were. This one was exactly my own age (versus 15 years younger) but had some medical issues that caused her to move slowly. I tend to walk briskly. Also, we had few interests in common; she was not at all into competitive activities, even non-active ones like trivia games; and I am not at all into spending time in the casino. We did both enjoy the piano bar, though. Most days I was up long before her, had used the gym, showered, and gone to breakfast while she was still in bed. We'd do our separate thing during the day, then meet and go to dinner, the evening show, and the piano bar together. That's more than the minimum "share the cost and stay out of each other's way" that I expect of a roomie.

Elliott March 12th, 2012 02:11 PM

Hawaiian Cruise
 
Did the Golden Princess 14 day Hawaiian cruise in January, 2011. Had an inside cabin with FOUR people!!! It was like a college dorm room, but the price was so low!!! This cruise was one of the most fun cruises ever!!! Only knew one of my cabin mates before the cruise. We rented a car on most of the Hawaiian Islands and all shared the cost, saw so much of the sights. Shared a lot and did our own things...

Before 9/11, A number of the cruise lines would line up cabin mates for the singles cruisers, That was so nice and easy back then. Have found three people at Cruise Mates to share about ten cruise with so far...

Trip March 12th, 2012 02:30 PM

Nice to see how Cruisemates has helped in solos having a great cruise.

Sistersolo April 23rd, 2012 10:24 AM

Hello again! I'm just back from my third cruise with a Cruisemates cabin-sharer, this time a transatlantic on Princess from Ft. Lauderdale to Southhampton. Again, I'd have to call it a success.

This time my partner shared more of my interests than the previous ones had; we played trivia and attended a number of shipboard entertainments together. She did like to watch TV in bed, but I'm the kind who can sleep through anything. And then she usually slept late in the morning, but that just meant that we never had any bathroom conflict. The only real problem was that this was her first transatlantic, and she decided that the six days from Florida to Ponta Delgada was too many away from land, so I'll have to find someone else to do a TA westbound in the fall.

LarryinNJ April 28th, 2012 09:36 PM

I've heard from a couple of people and one of them was a possibility but just not enough lead time before the cruise for me to make plans. I'm hoping to make a connection with someone so a cruise will happen. Hate this single supplement fee stuff and I'm seeing others in the same boat as me. Well, maybe something will materialize and we'd be on that boat together and actually get to go somewhere instead of just dreaming about it and getting frustrated about it. Hoping...

Elliott April 29th, 2012 10:00 AM

Cruise Mate cabin sharing
 
Before 9/11 it was easy to share a cabin, The cruise lines would find a cabin mate for you and no single supplement involved. Since then, have found a number of people through Cruise Mates to share a cabin with. Only one clinker in all that time. Will meet another Cruise Mate; Bryan to share a Transatlantic cruise on board the RCCL this May 3rd, 2012. We have e-mailed and talked on the phone. I'm sure it will be a fun cruise to England!!!

SigLO June 7th, 2012 01:04 PM

Hi Trip!
I used cruisemates.com a couple years ago. I was so lucky to be able to do a double cruise trip that year. I found a roomy for each cruise with this site. We started with messages in the public area, then private messages, and when we were comfortable, we shared email addresses. As we became more comfortable, we then shared phone calls.
I met my first roomy on board Celebrity Summit. We had a great time. We then had an over-night at a San Juan hotel where I met my roomy for Adventure of the Seas; another 7 night cruise beginning the next day. We had a great time too. We shared some pictures of each other in emails and some in facebook.

I have found this site now to be a bit more confusing. I eventually found the Seeking Cruise Companion section again. Maybe it's just me, but things seem to be set up a bit differently.

I've seen an ad from a poster who was in here 2 years ago. I replied to that thread then, but got no answers. I replied to it again recently and it appears to be the same now.

Could be my error, but I'm not seeing nearly as many current and active "seeking companion" ads.

Any advice welcome:)

Elliott June 7th, 2012 09:51 PM

Returned from a Transatlantic cruise on the RCI Jewel May 2012. Had a grand trip to Europe with a cabin mate that I found on Cruisemates. Would not have been able to afford this cruise if I did not have a cabin mate...


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